Comments on: When Coworkers Treat You Differently Because of Your Relationship Status https://cruciallearning.com/blog/relationship-status-and-coworker-treatment-crucial-learning/ VitalSmarts is now Crucial Learning Fri, 18 Feb 2022 17:14:22 +0000 hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=6.5.2 By: Still facing a bias at work because of your marital status? Ask Yogesh Sood https://cruciallearning.com/blog/relationship-status-and-coworker-treatment-crucial-learning/#comment-7464 Tue, 15 Dec 2020 09:46:14 +0000 https://www.vitalsmarts.com/crucialskills/?p=8530#comment-7464 […] This blog is an adaptation of a blog written by Emily Gregory on November 18th, 2020    –https://www.vitalsmarts.com/crucialskills/2020/11/when-coworkers-treat-you-differently-because-of-yo…  […]

]]> By: Erika https://cruciallearning.com/blog/relationship-status-and-coworker-treatment-crucial-learning/#comment-7463 Fri, 04 Dec 2020 14:06:16 +0000 https://www.vitalsmarts.com/crucialskills/?p=8530#comment-7463 Love the post and suggestions too!

]]> By: Bryan https://cruciallearning.com/blog/relationship-status-and-coworker-treatment-crucial-learning/#comment-7462 Fri, 20 Nov 2020 15:52:56 +0000 https://www.vitalsmarts.com/crucialskills/?p=8530#comment-7462 Is she is flirting, coming on to the men, or otherwise opening acting interested in them? If so, then maybe the men feel they need to clarify that they are not interested for both personal and professional reasons.

]]> By: Patty https://cruciallearning.com/blog/relationship-status-and-coworker-treatment-crucial-learning/#comment-7461 Wed, 18 Nov 2020 15:59:38 +0000 https://www.vitalsmarts.com/crucialskills/?p=8530#comment-7461 Good question and good answer, but I would just flat out say to these guys, “I’d like to ask you something. I wonder if you’re telling me that because you’re concerned about your interactions with a female coworker being interpreted as less than professional.”

I would not hesitate to let my coworker know that telling me they are just being nice as a colleague is not the same as just being nice as a colleague. That their words are not only unnecessary, but they do not take the place of a professional relationship and will not provide cover if the relationship is anything less. “Actions speak louder than words, and I’m sure we can show each other mutual respect.”

I know, that sounds angry, accusing. But I have no empathy for a man who feels the need to state that he is treating me as a colleague. I know this is a stretch, but without speaking up, it’s just getting too close to accepting flowers from a man who treats you poorly otherwise.

He is a grown up and a professional. Behave and communicate like a grown up and a professional.

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