Comments on: To Be Productive, Learn to Say No https://cruciallearning.com/blog/to-be-productive-learn-to-say-no/ VitalSmarts is now Crucial Learning Thu, 07 Jun 2018 16:43:05 +0000 hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=6.5.2 By: bean https://cruciallearning.com/blog/to-be-productive-learn-to-say-no/#comment-6400 Thu, 07 Jun 2018 16:43:05 +0000 http://www.vitalsmarts.com/crucialskills/?p=7377#comment-6400 In reply to Kathleen.

@ kathleen
exactly
my suspicion is they’ve been getting some grief from those who pay their fees about the hierarchy flattening… any thoughts, justin or others?

]]> By: Kathleen https://cruciallearning.com/blog/to-be-productive-learn-to-say-no/#comment-6399 Wed, 06 Jun 2018 23:25:07 +0000 http://www.vitalsmarts.com/crucialskills/?p=7377#comment-6399 It is interesting that his article covers employees and peers, but doesn’t discuss supervisors. What do you recommend if your supervisor has a tendency to over extend the office’s resources or your workload?

]]> By: bean https://cruciallearning.com/blog/to-be-productive-learn-to-say-no/#comment-6398 Wed, 06 Jun 2018 19:48:48 +0000 http://www.vitalsmarts.com/crucialskills/?p=7377#comment-6398 @dale
agreed

@justin
“…the wrong side of our eyeballs…”
i feel like this metaphor has so much potential, but it’s being held up somewhere just before the rewarding resolution of its meaning… maybe “wrong” is too strong or not well-enough qualified…

also, i like the way you have a breakdown for higher ups v peers; have you guys considered another breakdown (which would yield a 2×2 in this case, but at least 1×2 in others) for the “telling” perspective v the “listening” perspective in general?
it would address dale’s point somewhat, but even better, it would detail both sides of the optimal version of this conversation; i’d like this is better because i often have a hard time applying some of the newsletters when i have the opposite perspective. (i.e. i know i shouldn’t expect my interlocutor to conform to the expectations laid out here, so your input on how to facilitate or lay the groundwork for someone adopting your advice in those cases might give me a better vision for how the two parts of such a convo would best fit together.)

]]> By: Peter Vajda https://cruciallearning.com/blog/to-be-productive-learn-to-say-no/#comment-6397 Wed, 06 Jun 2018 18:22:07 +0000 http://www.vitalsmarts.com/crucialskills/?p=7377#comment-6397 In my experience, there may also be a psycho-emotional variable connected to saying “no.” If one has issues with low self-esteem, low, self-worth or feeling deficient and lives from a place of needing/wanting to be “seen,” acknowledged, appreciated, liked, etc, etc., and this is either a conscious or unconscious top priority in how they live their lives, then this needs to be addressed. Psychologists say this is especially true of women who were raised to “please.” Saying “yes” is often a manifestation to please “mommy” or” daddy” – a childhood-based learned behavior that now leaks out in adulthood – i.e., the child in the adult clothes and adult body.

]]> By: Dale https://cruciallearning.com/blog/to-be-productive-learn-to-say-no/#comment-6396 Wed, 06 Jun 2018 14:36:38 +0000 http://www.vitalsmarts.com/crucialskills/?p=7377#comment-6396 If the person works for you: 3. Consider if you are asking too much of them and properly prioritizing the work. (i.e. Are you the problem?)

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