Comments on: Why Do I Engage in Behavior that I Know is Self-Destructive? https://cruciallearning.com/blog/why-do-i-engage-in-behavior-that-i-know-is-self-destructive/ VitalSmarts is now Crucial Learning Tue, 26 Apr 2022 22:25:26 +0000 hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=6.5.2 By: Sophia Bronte https://cruciallearning.com/blog/why-do-i-engage-in-behavior-that-i-know-is-self-destructive/#comment-7287 Thu, 07 May 2020 04:44:54 +0000 https://www.vitalsmarts.com/crucialskills/?p=8047#comment-7287 I tried all I could to talk to him about his infidelity but wouldn’t listen. I saw a counselor who I thought could help all to no avail. I felt it was wrong to disclose my family issues with other people but the moment I did there was a solution…I met an old friend back in high school whom I talked to she said she had similar problem in the past,that a certain man helped her by doing some spell stuff which I decline initially…to cut the long story short,I gave it a try at the end of the whole spell casting process and prayers,bath it worked. Am happy with my man now and we having a splendid reunion. He cured my Man from Herpes Contact this address to get help also,Am recommending this to you because he can helps Robinsonbucler@gmail. com,

]]> By: Katie H. https://cruciallearning.com/blog/why-do-i-engage-in-behavior-that-i-know-is-self-destructive/#comment-7286 Wed, 29 Apr 2020 20:25:38 +0000 https://www.vitalsmarts.com/crucialskills/?p=8047#comment-7286 In reply to Wendy B.

I love this, Wendy. Thank you for sharing!

]]> By: Wendy B https://cruciallearning.com/blog/why-do-i-engage-in-behavior-that-i-know-is-self-destructive/#comment-7285 Wed, 29 Apr 2020 18:58:57 +0000 https://www.vitalsmarts.com/crucialskills/?p=8047#comment-7285 My first thoughts were about how intense these disagreements are that this person feels the need to “show him.” That behavior is similar to taking a poison pill and expecting the other person to die. How important is the topic? Is this a recurring argument? Is this person feeling as if they and they’re opinions or feelings don’t matter? I recently finished “The Dance of Anger” by Harriet Lerner. It gave me so much insight into my own actions and behaviors that would occur when I was drawn into a disagreement. If I wanted the outcome to change, I had to change. I now approach things entirely differently. I don’t get angry. I calmly state my opinions and feelings. I don’t allow deflection and I do not accept blame for things that I had no part in or no control over.
I no longer get upset with myself for being drawn into something and losing control because it doesn’t happen anymore. The change throws the other person off balance and they will continue to try what worked for them in the past. It takes courage to replace/change behavior but it’s worth it.

]]> By: Sharon Campbell https://cruciallearning.com/blog/why-do-i-engage-in-behavior-that-i-know-is-self-destructive/#comment-7284 Wed, 29 Apr 2020 16:09:25 +0000 https://www.vitalsmarts.com/crucialskills/?p=8047#comment-7284 Any self-destructive behavior really calls for a visit to a good therapist. There may be undiagnosed mental illness, and the insights gained are always beneficial.

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