Comments on: Managing a Negative Influencer https://cruciallearning.com/blog/managing-a-negative-influencer/ VitalSmarts is now Crucial Learning Mon, 18 Apr 2022 01:41:42 +0000 hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=6.5.2 By: Lorie Buenviaje https://cruciallearning.com/blog/managing-a-negative-influencer/#comment-9585 Mon, 18 Apr 2022 01:41:42 +0000 https://cruciallearning.com/?p=12172#comment-9585 The most common mishap is failing to indicate the sponsorship

]]> By: Sue Hamilton https://cruciallearning.com/blog/managing-a-negative-influencer/#comment-9512 Wed, 13 Apr 2022 01:50:21 +0000 https://cruciallearning.com/?p=12172#comment-9512 In reply to Nellie Negative.

Or the manager makes quick and uninformed decisions that impact the team in a way he does not fully understand or appreciate.

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]]> By: Mohamed https://cruciallearning.com/blog/managing-a-negative-influencer/#comment-7999 Mon, 10 Jan 2022 07:12:58 +0000 https://cruciallearning.com/?p=12172#comment-7999 Thank you Ryan 😊

]]> By: Ryan Trimble https://cruciallearning.com/blog/managing-a-negative-influencer/#comment-7976 Fri, 24 Dec 2021 04:00:23 +0000 https://cruciallearning.com/?p=12172#comment-7976 In reply to Syeda Rizvi.

Hi Syeda, there are few options. Currently, you can attend a virtual course or an on-demand course. You can also pick up a copy of the book. If you have any questions, send us a message.

]]> By: Syeda Rizvi https://cruciallearning.com/blog/managing-a-negative-influencer/#comment-7975 Fri, 24 Dec 2021 03:38:42 +0000 https://cruciallearning.com/?p=12172#comment-7975 I am not employed in a company. I am a mother of 3 very successful daughters who have broken the glass ceiling in America. Just to make it simple I would like to say that I had a big role to play in their success. I broke away from an abusive relationship eons ago. It took me twenty years to finally enter the US on an I 20 student visa and my daughters on Fi.
I come from a South Asian background so the culture does not give a voice to women.
I was able to break away hence my daughters have a voice in a man’s world. The crucial conversations I have with them is their total disregard of me as being of any importance. It has damaged me greatly. Emotionally I have cut myself off from them. I want to have a better relationship with them but have never been successful. Are there any suggestions you can give me to help break barriers and create civility in our communication. Much appreciated. Happy holidays and a safe healthy and successful 2022. 🙏🏻✅🎄

]]> By: Ryan Trimble https://cruciallearning.com/blog/managing-a-negative-influencer/#comment-7974 Fri, 24 Dec 2021 00:45:18 +0000 https://cruciallearning.com/?p=12172#comment-7974 In reply to Lori.

Thanks, Lori. I see what you’re saying, and that’s not the meaning I intended. The key word in that sentence is support. I think it’s ok for leaders to specify expected behaviors; all organizations have standards. But there’s an opportunity in how they communicate and uphold them. Hopefully it’s clear from the rest of the article and our other material that we teach a supportive and enabling communication model, not a controlling or coercive one.

]]> By: Ryan Trimble https://cruciallearning.com/blog/managing-a-negative-influencer/#comment-7973 Fri, 24 Dec 2021 00:27:18 +0000 https://cruciallearning.com/?p=12172#comment-7973 In reply to mcw.

Interesting. I hadn’t heard of Gretchen Rubin. Thanks for the tip.

]]> By: ANW https://cruciallearning.com/blog/managing-a-negative-influencer/#comment-7972 Thu, 23 Dec 2021 19:45:15 +0000 https://cruciallearning.com/?p=12172#comment-7972 Wow! I felt like my manager wrote this about me! Thank you for advising that the manager check their own stories and conclusions first. I feel misunderstood and unheard most of the time. From the standpoint of a report, I can also use the advise in this article when communicating with my manager.

]]> By: mcw https://cruciallearning.com/blog/managing-a-negative-influencer/#comment-7971 Thu, 23 Dec 2021 16:42:07 +0000 https://cruciallearning.com/?p=12172#comment-7971 I think there is another off shoot that may be influencing this situation and that is how each deals with expectations. We use Gretchen Rubin’s Four Tendencies to help leaders and staffs understand how we process and handle expectations differently. My guess is this supervisor and the majority of staff are likely to be Obligers. This means they put external expectations before their own and when an external directive is given they nod, agree and do it. The “negative influencer” may not be a negative influencer at all – this person may be a Questioner. A Questioner makes all expectations (internal & external) internal expectations. They question and challenge the expectation until their questions are answered and once that is met, the Questioner follows through on the expectation. Questioners are much lower in numbers than Obligers – it can seem to Obligers that Questioners are negative, insubordinate, etc. when they don’t understand the Questioners need for those questions to be answered. Questioners are equally valuable to the staff because they will not blindly follow and they make staffs stretch and grow. (fyi – the other two tendencies are Upholders and Rebels). I think exploring this issue while using the above CC method might make a lot of lightbulbs go off.

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