I fully agree! My l (now ex) best friend of 32 years stole a $54 lipgloss. She lied when I confronted her saying she didn’t meanwhile I had used it before going to meet her at hair salon and know exactly where
I put it. We came to
My house and about 45 mins later I saw her using it. I immediately went to check my purse and it was not there. She said she had found the one she
Lost weeks ago when she went to get all her stuff from her car (in my driveway) to stay over at my house. I didn’t want to start a war so I let it go and asked her about it two days later and it was not same story she told me the first time I asked. I let two more days go
Buy and asked again to which she did a copy and paste of what she said the second time. I ended up telling her I do not want this friendship anymore. That I cannot have a friend who
Lies and steals especially since I have been extremely kind financially to her and her kids. I cannot believe that she lost a 32 year friendship over a $54 lipgloss, I cannot have her in my life because she just keeps lying… 100%.
You Should NEVER steal especially from your best friend. That is disgusting.

My thoughts exactly if it ain’t for you don’t touch it you ain’t got no business touching you are a thief

Isn’t that the truth! who told you as a child it’s ok to steal? a teacher, a grown-up, your mom? no. as children we learn right from wrong. good and bad. I’m sure as a child there’s a lot of people that remember what it’s like to take something that didn’t belong to them. fear of punishment, embarrassment, guilt. and when you grow-up its law, a crime with punishment for a reason! I have no patients or respect for theives. just because you want something, doesn’t make it yours. how hard is that to figure out

I don’t believe coddling someone who steals is the path forward. It’s a bad sign. People who feel entitled to your hard earned cash should be confronted. Move her ass out. You did nothing wrong other than not seeing the signs of a deeply disturbed person.

Nope, one should not have to bank money, valuables or items from anyone. If it’s not yours leave it alone.

1. Whether in your family home, apt with a roommate(s), a business partnership, even places of worship and so forth , if one suspects theft , the use of grifting ( drawing on emotions to obtain money they likely intend not to repay – this is Fraud punishable by 2-5 years in prison. Mainly because of intent, and likely wire fraud if money is deposited in their bank and transfers it to pay someone for what they owe, etc, each payment is potentially one indictment. Prison time, severe fines, slanderous lawsuits usually connected, conspiracy to commit a state/ federal crime, esp if others involved, and civil lawsuits , where proof is not as important…). happen to thousands of people everyday. Most walk away only to repeat the crime bc the victim refuses to confront their concern, creating a behemoth of a criminal.

Speak to a criminal attorney who these days provide at least 30 minutes of free advice . If its a good, provable case, attorneys will usually do a quick investigation for free and call you back giving you their findings. This is plan B, possibly , C and D.

If a civil discourse has con. Sideways in an attempt to find non- legal resolution, the next step is to get a quote from the lawyer to handle the case step by step. First, they will have you give full. Details, aby prove , including security cam footage of crime… documents like contracts, recorded phone conversations in one-party states, like Texas. If your intimately involved. with the alleged criminal as business partners or living together…then its not only legal to record using phone Apps that are free or for 10-20 dollars. I have one and use it when i am speaking to a partner or people you find suspicious. Texts and emails are admissible in. Court’s . If u record via your cell, u can start the recording at anytime; whether you call or they call. They can hear the recording sounds.
Recording with your phone close by is something you can also do in person when attempting resolution. * just know that in 1 party states, only one person needs to know of the ongoing recording. And that person can be you. You do not have to mention anything to the person(s) in group talk, as long as all of you are involved in the issue necessitating clarification and resolution.

1. Thank you for coming together to resolve this issue(s). Im sure all of us want resolution and without the beed to get upset or threaten. So, who would like to begin in giving a general overview as to why we have been called to meet. If no one says anything, then you can have a synopsis written from which you will read. Make copies for all.
2. The agenda should be concise.
3. Have proof if any including conversations. Do not use recorded ones at first.
4. Stay calm but don’t backdown. U can have a meeting in a coffee place away from people.
5. Then, move to the list of solutions, first asking them how they feel and how they would want to fix things.

The above shows great leadership capabilities, and protect you from the culprits from stating you took to long to discuss your concern(s) or you didnt take any step forward to protect the relationship… personal, business… etc
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6. After the meeting, email and text all parties thanking them for meeting and for their input. If things go sideways, stay calm and try to set up a followup meeting in person or by phone ( always record) , asking if they would like to rediscuss or come up with new solutions. A second meeting is usually needed. People need time to ruminate over what issues were discussed and if they are ready themselves for plan B.

B.
If no resolution is attained, then for as little as 500dollars, a lawyer can send a demand letter and cease desist. A time limit on causations and resolutions will be on the letter. This does not mean the alleged enemy must attain a lawyer. But he now knows he will have to respond. A restraining order maybe needed if one perceives a threat.. usually very effective. The letter will remain amicable .

C. If the party presumed defendant (s) are dismissive, then a full legal letter will be sent. It is worth it if they plan to hurt others and the minies owed are high. After all, the lawyers will seek to have all legal fees paid. Usually. 10-15k dollars are what lawyers charge. More if it goes to court. But you have the right to change your mind anytime.

D.criminal lawyers will usually take cases they have a high likelihood of winning. It improves their image. And that is extremely valuable to all lawyers.

Lets protect each other by seeking justice. Not vengeance.
Blessings,’
Dr. J