Comments on: A Valentine’s Lesson for All of Us https://cruciallearning.com/blog/a-valentines-lesson-for-all-of-us/ VitalSmarts is now Crucial Learning Mon, 14 Feb 2022 19:10:53 +0000 hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=6.5.2 By: Julie https://cruciallearning.com/blog/a-valentines-lesson-for-all-of-us/#comment-8376 Mon, 14 Feb 2022 19:10:53 +0000 https://www.vitalsmarts.com/crucialskills/?p=7632#comment-8376 Kerry – I love your stories and appreciate your messages. Good reminders for all of us!

If your GCC is now Grandview University, you should see campus now. The Quonset huts are gone. đŸ™‚

]]> By: Lynn Patrick https://cruciallearning.com/blog/a-valentines-lesson-for-all-of-us/#comment-8374 Mon, 14 Feb 2022 16:37:01 +0000 https://www.vitalsmarts.com/crucialskills/?p=7632#comment-8374 I can relate. My dad noted how much time my mom took balancing the checkbook … so one year he bought her an adding machine. I don’t recall if this was a Valentine’s day, Birthday, Anniversary, or Christmas gift … but it was NOT well received. Eventually, she forgave him. Looking back, if they could go back in time, each would have behaved differently.

]]> By: Kim https://cruciallearning.com/blog/a-valentines-lesson-for-all-of-us/#comment-8287 Fri, 11 Feb 2022 07:52:54 +0000 https://www.vitalsmarts.com/crucialskills/?p=7632#comment-8287 In reply to Erica L Arnold.

Perhaps augmenting the item itself with something heartfelt, such as a meaningful love note in a card might have contextualised the price of the gift. Its fair to assume that lasting couples don’t care as much about price as they do value; how you show what you value as well how you value it.

]]> By: Debra Custer https://cruciallearning.com/blog/a-valentines-lesson-for-all-of-us/#comment-8282 Thu, 10 Feb 2022 21:51:36 +0000 https://www.vitalsmarts.com/crucialskills/?p=7632#comment-8282 generally, while my husband and I had 4 sons at home and money was always tight, flowers and candy was an extravagance. My husband nearly always bought a card though. I was the one who didn’t like it when he spent money that we could ill afford. I didn’t appreciate the Mom’s tone. She could have handled this much differently.

]]> By: Diane https://cruciallearning.com/blog/a-valentines-lesson-for-all-of-us/#comment-8281 Thu, 10 Feb 2022 16:49:03 +0000 https://www.vitalsmarts.com/crucialskills/?p=7632#comment-8281 In reply to nancy lou little.

I think we both were thinking differently on this story than others. Sometimes a heartfelt “I can’t get you what I wanted because money is tight, but I think about you and love you very much” OR “let me fix dinner tonight because we can’t afford anything but I appreciate you” would have shown more caring and appreciation than what Dad did here. It’s not the dollar amount, it’s the lack of emotional intelligence and showing he didn’t think AT ALL prior to giving the gift, that was behind it.

]]> By: Nancy A Moores https://cruciallearning.com/blog/a-valentines-lesson-for-all-of-us/#comment-8228 Wed, 09 Feb 2022 17:08:25 +0000 https://www.vitalsmarts.com/crucialskills/?p=7632#comment-8228 Great story to get multiple life lessons across. In addition, there is nothing wrong or embarrassing about attending community college!

]]> By: nancy lou little https://cruciallearning.com/blog/a-valentines-lesson-for-all-of-us/#comment-8227 Wed, 09 Feb 2022 16:55:04 +0000 https://www.vitalsmarts.com/crucialskills/?p=7632#comment-8227 It’s great to see that misogyny is alive and well among women as well as men! Good for you Kerry, bashing your mom in public! I’m sure dad is proud! The moral is: Relax and enjoy it mom, no matter what “it” is. in this case, “it” is just a devaluing and demeaning gesture. It’s even more important to maintain silence when the abuse escalates. Male aggression toward women, whether passive aggressive as in this case, which is used to demean your mother further or in more overt or physical ways MEN SHOULD NEVER BE HELD UP TO SCRUTINY OR HELD ACCOUNTABLE!!

]]> By: Erica L Arnold https://cruciallearning.com/blog/a-valentines-lesson-for-all-of-us/#comment-8226 Wed, 09 Feb 2022 16:24:14 +0000 https://www.vitalsmarts.com/crucialskills/?p=7632#comment-8226 In reply to Teresa Washburn.

I am on the same page with @Teresa Washburn. It took a lot of thought to figure out how to show love and appreciation when he couldn’t go out and buy maybe what his spouse’s heart desired. It was so thoughtful to find a way to share a gift.

]]> By: Jenna https://cruciallearning.com/blog/a-valentines-lesson-for-all-of-us/#comment-8225 Wed, 09 Feb 2022 16:03:07 +0000 https://www.vitalsmarts.com/crucialskills/?p=7632#comment-8225 In reply to Diana.

My thought exactly!

]]> By: Jenna https://cruciallearning.com/blog/a-valentines-lesson-for-all-of-us/#comment-8224 Wed, 09 Feb 2022 16:02:26 +0000 https://www.vitalsmarts.com/crucialskills/?p=7632#comment-8224 Wow, what a story! I cringe just imagining it playing out. And yet I wonder: What did his Mom get for his Dad that Valentine’s Day? Was she particularly thoughtful? Or did she just believe that she was owed a nice gift because of traditional gender role expectations?

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