https://cruciallearning.com/blog/helping-your-child-with-addiction/ VitalSmarts is now Crucial Learning Mon, 06 Jan 2014 18:34:52 +0000 hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=6.5.2 https://cruciallearning.com/blog/helping-your-child-with-addiction/#comment-3213 Mon, 06 Jan 2014 18:34:52 +0000 http://www.crucialskills.com/?p=5061#comment-3213 While I believe the principles and practices of Crucial Skills and Influencer are great tools, I’d like to suggest an alternative to these parents who obviously love and support their son very much: Apply the principles to yourselves, not your son, and find a 12-step program for yourselves that will help you heal from the affects of his disease and prepare you to continue supporting him in healthy ways. The addict has to find his own desire, motivation, and continuity; and this comes through working an ongoing recovery program that helps him to look at and address his disease and the effects it has had on his life. The Six Sources are are, as Al pointed out, present in most rehab programs and are also very similar to the process experienced by working the 12 steps of NA, AA, or other 12-step programs (there’s even a Pills Anonymous fellowship these days). Nar-Anon, AlAnon, Families Anonymous, Codependents Anonymous are all wonderful programs where you will meet people just like you with exactly the same experiences you’ve had/will have. Of course, I’m speaking from the same set of experiences–as a recovering addict myself and the family member of addicts both in and out of recovery programs. Best wishes, much strength, and lots of hope to you in your journey.

]]> https://cruciallearning.com/blog/helping-your-child-with-addiction/#comment-3212 Fri, 03 Jan 2014 14:04:25 +0000 http://www.crucialskills.com/?p=5061#comment-3212 Like Influencer and Crucial Converation folks, the people at Teen (and Adult) Challenge have hit the mark and have been successful where the other “experts” fail. If this family sincerely wants their son to be drug free for life, and it sounds like they lovingly do, they need to contact Teen Challenge for help. This is the one organization that truly equips people to live successfully outside a clinic environment. Like you mentioned, part of the reason that drug rehab clinics are successful when the subject is in the clinic is that they make it impossible not to be successful. What happens when they are released is not controlled and the subject is not usually successful. Patients of Teen Challenge ARE VERY successful when released! Check out their statistics and you’ll wonder why not all clinics use their model. Like the question asks in Crucial Conversations, how would I handle this if I really wanted to reach my goals?

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