Comments on: Influence Versus Manipulation https://cruciallearning.com/blog/influence-versus-manipulation/ VitalSmarts is now Crucial Learning Wed, 21 Oct 2020 13:41:24 +0000 hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=6.5.2 By: Jane Sutherland https://cruciallearning.com/blog/influence-versus-manipulation/#comment-6876 Wed, 21 Oct 2020 13:41:24 +0000 https://www.crucialskills.com/?p=6270#comment-6876 Your article explains very well what I have been going through in changes at my workplace. I just copied down as a quote your explanation of manipulation. It explains exactly how I have been feeling. There had been subterfuge – new management talking about changes that involve me with others, not me, that got back to me. Now management is withholding explanations of their intent and subsequent changes feel very manipulative and self-serving, especially given the subterfuge. And, because I am “hard wired for self protection,” I am quick to see bad intent. All this has made it very difficult for me to be a fully willing and active participant, which goes against my nature.

]]> By: Kevin https://cruciallearning.com/blog/influence-versus-manipulation/#comment-6875 Wed, 17 Jul 2019 15:10:15 +0000 https://www.crucialskills.com/?p=6270#comment-6875 Absolute nonsense. Thanks for exposing this tripe. I will NOT be reading any more of this garbage. This was a word salad article and therefore I anticipate a word salad book. Your comment of “If explaining exactly what you are doing and why makes the action less effective, then it is manipulative.” is complete nonsense.

I hope the younger generation sees this idiocy for what it is.

Kevin

]]> By: Stacey Vanucci https://cruciallearning.com/blog/influence-versus-manipulation/#comment-6874 Wed, 17 Jul 2019 13:33:16 +0000 https://www.crucialskills.com/?p=6270#comment-6874 This was extremely on-point, relevant and helpful. Thank you.

]]> By: Mike https://cruciallearning.com/blog/influence-versus-manipulation/#comment-6873 Tue, 07 Jun 2016 23:31:06 +0000 https://www.crucialskills.com/?p=6270#comment-6873 Hmm, everything you said makes sense. I particularly like your definitions of influence vs manipulation. At the same time, there may be another explanation.
The change this organization aspires to make is a major shift. Compliance is on the opposite side of the continuum from collaboration. This will not be easy, happen over night nor be accomplished without some false starts or setbacks. Making this change will be awkward and feel like role playing both to those trying a new behavior aligned to the new value and those experiencing it from the receiving side. It may feel false or manipulative.
How to get thru this learning phase is a tough question.

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