Comments on: How to Connect with an Aging Parent https://cruciallearning.com/blog/how-to-connect-with-an-aging-parent/ VitalSmarts is now Crucial Learning Wed, 07 Oct 2020 23:00:51 +0000 hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=6.5.2 By: Eleanor Gaccetta https://cruciallearning.com/blog/how-to-connect-with-an-aging-parent/#comment-5703 Wed, 07 Oct 2020 23:00:51 +0000 http://www.vitalsmarts.com/crucialskills/?p=6711#comment-5703 Great article this is very helpful to take care your elder love ones 24/7.

]]> By: Zoe Campos https://cruciallearning.com/blog/how-to-connect-with-an-aging-parent/#comment-5702 Fri, 17 Jul 2020 11:26:25 +0000 http://www.vitalsmarts.com/crucialskills/?p=6711#comment-5702 Thank you for telling me that using common interests and experiences can help me connect with my aging parent. My mother is already showing signs of Alzheimer’s and it makes it ten times harder to keep a conversation with her. I’ll try doing what you have advised and see if we can talk about moving her to a memory care facility this weekend.

]]> By: Stuart Purviance https://cruciallearning.com/blog/how-to-connect-with-an-aging-parent/#comment-5701 Tue, 18 Apr 2017 07:13:09 +0000 http://www.vitalsmarts.com/crucialskills/?p=6711#comment-5701 I am a 79 1/2 year old male and have no children of my own. I live alone with two cats and retired from a full time job ten months ago. I was surprised at the description of the “seventy and eighty year olds”. I have just read. For one thing they appear senile and really not folks I would want to spend time with. I have my own life and have usually been by myself so I adjusted long ago I like being alone and recognized early on in my retirement that the loss of contact with people was a void I would need to fill. I
am working on doing that and while I have strong opinions I don’t feel the need to unload them at the drop of a hat..,I am not a hermit nor am I perfect. I interact with a coterie of friends and others at lunches and such and have with some wryness realized my opinions are not sought after much anymore if they ever were. Life is tough and then you die!

]]> By: Adrienne https://cruciallearning.com/blog/how-to-connect-with-an-aging-parent/#comment-5700 Tue, 21 Mar 2017 20:25:26 +0000 http://www.vitalsmarts.com/crucialskills/?p=6711#comment-5700 What I’ve experienced is that my elderly friends often forget conversations and in their haste to cover up embarrassment, make up statements that are plainly untrue. They also have false memories where the facts of a conversation or experience are flipped around. Someone she dislikes suddenly becomes someone she adores, or vice versa… or at times the conversation becomes what was said or not said. These experiences are conversation terminators, and not in a good way. I will try adapting some of the points above to address these issues. Thank you!

]]> By: Nita Zelenak https://cruciallearning.com/blog/how-to-connect-with-an-aging-parent/#comment-5699 Tue, 21 Mar 2017 14:29:05 +0000 http://www.vitalsmarts.com/crucialskills/?p=6711#comment-5699 Love the perspective of this piece. Excellent advice. Thank you so much.

]]> By: Pam https://cruciallearning.com/blog/how-to-connect-with-an-aging-parent/#comment-5698 Mon, 20 Mar 2017 14:32:24 +0000 http://www.vitalsmarts.com/crucialskills/?p=6711#comment-5698 What a lovely piece.

]]> By: judyheyboer https://cruciallearning.com/blog/how-to-connect-with-an-aging-parent/#comment-5697 Sun, 19 Mar 2017 03:55:27 +0000 http://www.vitalsmarts.com/crucialskills/?p=6711#comment-5697 Thank you. Thank you. Thank you!

]]> By: Cecelia Link https://cruciallearning.com/blog/how-to-connect-with-an-aging-parent/#comment-5696 Sat, 18 Mar 2017 21:43:08 +0000 http://www.vitalsmarts.com/crucialskills/?p=6711#comment-5696 Sure hope my controlling sons read this. My husband is dead, long live his memory. Now I can live my own life!

]]> By: Seema https://cruciallearning.com/blog/how-to-connect-with-an-aging-parent/#comment-5695 Fri, 17 Mar 2017 16:21:44 +0000 http://www.vitalsmarts.com/crucialskills/?p=6711#comment-5695 You provide a very different perspective in your response to this situation. Your answer is refreshing and does not put blame on any party but explains what each side may be feeling. On the surface it may seem that the mother-in-law is irrational however, as you dig deeper you realize where that behavior is coming from. Great suggestions to help with the issue.

]]> By: davidmaxfield https://cruciallearning.com/blog/how-to-connect-with-an-aging-parent/#comment-5694 Thu, 16 Mar 2017 23:39:50 +0000 http://www.vitalsmarts.com/crucialskills/?p=6711#comment-5694 In reply to Karen.

Great idea. My mom and dad both wrote their memoirs when they were in their 80’s, and they are treasured documents. My dad took a very interesting approach. His was a book of Anecdotes–none longer than half a page. This made it really easy for him to write, and–when you read it–you are getting the gold nuggets without any filler.

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