Comments on: How to Be There for a Dying Friend https://cruciallearning.com/blog/how-to-be-there-for-a-dying-friend/ VitalSmarts is now Crucial Learning Fri, 19 Aug 2022 16:30:46 +0000 hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=6.5.2 By: Dawn https://cruciallearning.com/blog/how-to-be-there-for-a-dying-friend/#comment-10097 Fri, 19 Aug 2022 16:30:46 +0000 https://www.vitalsmarts.com/crucialskills/?p=7980#comment-10097 “Write down EVERYTHING that’s on your stress list right now.”
I love this!
What a wonderful idea! You are correct – asking how you can help will likely be met with zero requests, but even the mere act of writing all of the stressors down on a piece of paper may relieve their mind.
Brilliant!

]]> By: Lucy https://cruciallearning.com/blog/how-to-be-there-for-a-dying-friend/#comment-10041 Mon, 01 Aug 2022 14:33:22 +0000 https://www.vitalsmarts.com/crucialskills/?p=7980#comment-10041 In reply to ThoughtForTheDay.

Well said. Thank you

]]> By: ThoughtForTheDay https://cruciallearning.com/blog/how-to-be-there-for-a-dying-friend/#comment-10032 Thu, 28 Jul 2022 20:52:20 +0000 https://www.vitalsmarts.com/crucialskills/?p=7980#comment-10032 In reply to Tracy.

It is unselfish for a person of any faith to pray privately for the well-being of another without ever mentioning it to them. This is what we do when we Love. It is predatory for one human being to use their own criteria to judge another to be defective and to take overt action to perfect them. Defining the mother as being “unsaved” and launching an unwelcome, irritating, conversion event is what we do when we are controlling and self-centered, not something we do when we are other-centered and God-centered.

]]> By: marions72 https://cruciallearning.com/blog/how-to-be-there-for-a-dying-friend/#comment-10031 Thu, 28 Jul 2022 17:43:23 +0000 https://www.vitalsmarts.com/crucialskills/?p=7980#comment-10031 This is really good – thanks so much. And love the idea of having them write down everything – then my being the one to work on that list – how useful. Thank you.

]]> By: Lindsi https://cruciallearning.com/blog/how-to-be-there-for-a-dying-friend/#comment-10030 Thu, 28 Jul 2022 15:57:14 +0000 https://www.vitalsmarts.com/crucialskills/?p=7980#comment-10030 Love this! It was meaningful, useful and insightful. Thank you Joseph.

]]> By: Shelley https://cruciallearning.com/blog/how-to-be-there-for-a-dying-friend/#comment-10024 Wed, 27 Jul 2022 21:36:44 +0000 https://www.vitalsmarts.com/crucialskills/?p=7980#comment-10024 I absolutely love this. Thank you!

]]> By: Maggie https://cruciallearning.com/blog/how-to-be-there-for-a-dying-friend/#comment-10023 Wed, 27 Jul 2022 20:22:53 +0000 https://www.vitalsmarts.com/crucialskills/?p=7980#comment-10023 Just lost my dad so this feels fresh. We talked about much of what we shared together in life, both happy and difficult times, but it was mostly a rear view mirror approach. Now, I wish I had focused a bit more on his feelings and thoughts about impending death and if there was anyway I could alleviate those current concerns. He was 90 and really ready to go: there is no going back, so I can’t live in “woulda/shoulda/coulda” now. However, I will certainly use this perspective moving forward. The one thing I am confident about: there will be other opportunities and I will be there for those friends in a better way having read your article.

]]> By: Tracy https://cruciallearning.com/blog/how-to-be-there-for-a-dying-friend/#comment-10022 Wed, 27 Jul 2022 20:13:24 +0000 https://www.vitalsmarts.com/crucialskills/?p=7980#comment-10022 In reply to Lucy.

Perhaps your aunt’s motives seemed selfish to you or your family, but I can assure you it was not selfish in trying to help your mother. I can’t imagine why you would view that as “predatory.”

]]> By: Wendy Clarahan https://cruciallearning.com/blog/how-to-be-there-for-a-dying-friend/#comment-10021 Wed, 27 Jul 2022 18:11:35 +0000 https://www.vitalsmarts.com/crucialskills/?p=7980#comment-10021 I thoroughly appreciated this article! Lots of nugests there to put into practice and so well said. This was wisdom I could take and use right now and of course it is applicable to more than a dying friend. I want to reach out to you on a social science situation we are having that is interfering with performance in our company. I will find a way to contact you.

]]> By: susan johnson https://cruciallearning.com/blog/how-to-be-there-for-a-dying-friend/#comment-10020 Wed, 27 Jul 2022 16:18:07 +0000 https://www.vitalsmarts.com/crucialskills/?p=7980#comment-10020 That is a great Idea, coming at a perfect time.

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