https://cruciallearning.com/blog/what-if-participants-dont-like-the-term-violence-being-used-in-the-training/ VitalSmarts is now Crucial Learning Mon, 12 Mar 2012 17:29:49 +0000 hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=6.5.2 https://cruciallearning.com/blog/what-if-participants-dont-like-the-term-violence-being-used-in-the-training/#comment-452 Mon, 12 Mar 2012 17:29:49 +0000 http://www.crucialskills.com/?p=1515#comment-452 HI Jack — great to hear from you! For the “path to action” (or as you wrote, the see/hear continuum) — I find that good crisp stories can really help highlight the concept. I also now ask the class– “how do you know you’re telling yourself a story?” The answer is “anytime you feel something.” I find that really helps to drive home the point that we tell stories all_the_time. It’s not that we’re supposed to stop telling them — but rather how can we drive our awareness of them and realize we can change the feeling by changing the story. For ex. , if someone walked in your office right now, delivering a care package from someone you love– you first tell yourself a story. That story is what generates the feeling — not the package. You could look at the package and think “wow, they really care about me” — and feel happy. Or look at the package and think ” Is that what they think will make up for what they did to me yesterday?! I don’t think so!” and you feel angry. Or you look at the package and think “There they go again, spending money we don’t have on something I don’t need” and you’re disappointed. The only think that changed in these scenarios is the story. The story then generated the feelings. I also find that executing the “angry accountant” exercise well — connecting the exercise to emotions– can be very effective as well. Let me know if I misunderstood your question, but I think that may be what you were looking for…
Glad to hear you’re diving into the material!

]]> https://cruciallearning.com/blog/what-if-participants-dont-like-the-term-violence-being-used-in-the-training/#comment-451 Fri, 24 Feb 2012 15:11:57 +0000 http://www.crucialskills.com/?p=1515#comment-451 Candace remember me from Boston? I like your explanation and honesty above on violence term being verbal opposite. Also what have you or other facilitators done to help people practice the see/hear to act continuum….some experiential exercise vs. their conversations (to get them out of content of their conversations – as excercises now cover the science of it but not the art of doing it. make sense waht i am asking for?

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