Comments on: How to Set Boundaries for a Friendship https://cruciallearning.com/blog/how-to-set-boundaries-for-a-friendship/ VitalSmarts is now Crucial Learning Wed, 21 Oct 2020 04:05:54 +0000 hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=6.5.2 By: ajay https://cruciallearning.com/blog/how-to-set-boundaries-for-a-friendship/#comment-7423 Wed, 21 Oct 2020 04:05:54 +0000 https://www.vitalsmarts.com/crucialskills/?p=8315#comment-7423 It’s the best that I have read so far concerning friendship and work colleagues to deal with individuals who are not aware of their impact to their environment.

]]> By: Hanne https://cruciallearning.com/blog/how-to-set-boundaries-for-a-friendship/#comment-7422 Sun, 30 Aug 2020 16:05:41 +0000 https://www.vitalsmarts.com/crucialskills/?p=8315#comment-7422 I looooooove Crucial Conversations and these practical Q&A’s, all of it so valuable if you ‘re ready and willing to see the bigger picture and work on it. In order to move through life with more ease and fun. I like the lightness of these sometimes emotional, heavy, subjects and questions. It helps digest it better, and work on it faster. Love it.
Hanne from Communication Wise.org

]]> By: Steve Willis https://cruciallearning.com/blog/how-to-set-boundaries-for-a-friendship/#comment-7421 Wed, 26 Aug 2020 16:58:19 +0000 https://www.vitalsmarts.com/crucialskills/?p=8315#comment-7421 Thanks for sharing. I’ve found that influence comes over the course of many interactions/conversations. And, that how people choose to respond can be tough.

]]> By: Tanya R Hellams https://cruciallearning.com/blog/how-to-set-boundaries-for-a-friendship/#comment-7420 Wed, 26 Aug 2020 12:48:40 +0000 https://www.vitalsmarts.com/crucialskills/?p=8315#comment-7420 Wow, this was so meaningful to me. I have or had a friend of over 30 years and she was so obnoxious for so long and never took any of the comments about her behavior from others or me seriously. My husband would say she is selfish and narcissistic and I would say no she is just lonely. Well, she showed all the way out at a milestone birthday and I wrote her a letter and told her how I felt about her behavior and quantified each incident and its impact on my emotions and the other party goers without using extreme language. I started with my heart and mastered my story. She did not respond to my letter and I continued to reach out to her for six months trying to make it safe for her to discuss the letter and how it made her feel, trying to establish mutual purpose and respect, to no avail. I finally stepped away. I told her that when she was ready to talk I would be there. It was hurtful that she could just not respond. My letter was not mean just matter of fact about the situation. I made it safe for her to respond and she has not. So yes, the relationship was worth keeping however, she does not feel this way as we are 18 months after the fact and still no response. Sometimes after you have given your all you have to allow the person to come to terms with their emotions and just have patience.

I live by the tenants of Crucial Conversation and have taught the skills to my kids whom I think have better conversations in their adult life. Life is hard and sometimes there are no answers and we have to learn to be ok with the open end of life.

Thank you for listening,
Tanya H.

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