https://cruciallearning.com/blog/how-to-tell-someone-youre-offended/ VitalSmarts is now Crucial Learning Thu, 17 May 2018 21:11:49 +0000 hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=6.5.2 https://cruciallearning.com/blog/how-to-tell-someone-youre-offended/#comment-6368 Thu, 17 May 2018 21:11:49 +0000 http://www.vitalsmarts.com/crucialskills/?p=7344#comment-6368 Great ideas of how to change one’s perspective and what to aim for (e.g. sharing positive intent, assuming the best, etc.). I find that I also struggle with the actual words to say. Examples of that would be helpful.

]]> https://cruciallearning.com/blog/how-to-tell-someone-youre-offended/#comment-6367 Wed, 16 May 2018 20:09:39 +0000 http://www.vitalsmarts.com/crucialskills/?p=7344#comment-6367 I have been in this situation (what woman hasn’t?!!!!) and of all situations, this is the most difficult one to find words to say to the offending party, because of the mix of emotions involved: feeling excluded from the boy’s club, feeling not respected, and the sexual stuff. So there is anger, and judgment of the (extremely rude and thoughtless) offender. Not so easy to just set all that aside to think of ways to make them “feel safe”.. In the past, Crucial Conversations has suggested actual dialogue that could be used in these difficult kinds of conversations. This would be very helpful here. Because really what you want to do is club them.

]]> https://cruciallearning.com/blog/how-to-tell-someone-youre-offended/#comment-6366 Wed, 16 May 2018 18:41:29 +0000 http://www.vitalsmarts.com/crucialskills/?p=7344#comment-6366 Sorry Emily – long on analysis, short on advice.

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