Comments on: Additional Tips for Addressing Self-Centered Behavior https://cruciallearning.com/blog/additional-tips-for-addressing-self-centered-behavior/ VitalSmarts is now Crucial Learning Wed, 13 Jun 2018 12:28:49 +0000 hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=6.5.2 By: Peter Eastman https://cruciallearning.com/blog/additional-tips-for-addressing-self-centered-behavior/#comment-6401 Wed, 13 Jun 2018 12:28:49 +0000 http://www.vitalsmarts.com/crucialskills/?p=7389#comment-6401 I think you have just given me one of the best insights of all time:

“Do they disagree with your facts, or with your values?”

It makes me realize that fundamental value differences underlie most disagreements. These get hidden when opposing parties use selective facts to buttress their original value judgment.

This framework will allow me to
1. Better recognize hidden value disagreements
2. Discover the underlying value disparity
3. Help the parties either find the common ground, or discuss openly the real disagreement.

Thank you!

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