Comments on: Mending Family Ties https://cruciallearning.com/blog/mending-family-ties/ VitalSmarts is now Crucial Learning Wed, 08 Jul 2009 14:15:21 +0000 hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=6.5.2 By: New Guy https://cruciallearning.com/blog/mending-family-ties/#comment-97 Wed, 08 Jul 2009 14:15:21 +0000 http://www.crucialskills.com/?p=73#comment-97 Another good angle to look at this case from. Refusal could have damaged the son’s self esteem/self image. Great!@Kristin

]]> By: Kristin https://cruciallearning.com/blog/mending-family-ties/#comment-96 Mon, 06 Jul 2009 18:41:14 +0000 http://www.crucialskills.com/?p=73#comment-96 It’s interesting as I was thinking about my own comments and read New Guys’ comments I got what I needed for a conflict of my own.

What I was thinking around motive was something we often speak to, intent. I was wondering if the brother could reveal (if he hadn’t already) his intent in denying the son the money. Maybe along with the frustration at being derailed of his goals, he’s wondering about his worth to his uncle. Maybe he’s feeling unworthy of his uncle’s assistance and that is also what hurts…So maybe the uncle can say “My intent in saying no is… and (leaning on what New Guy said) how about Plan B…”. However this is just speculation without being behind those coversations behind closed doors.

]]> By: Lois https://cruciallearning.com/blog/mending-family-ties/#comment-95 Wed, 01 Jul 2009 19:02:57 +0000 http://www.crucialskills.com/?p=73#comment-95 Seeing this message from 2007 makes me so curious whether and how the matter was resolved. Please share if you find out!

]]> By: New Guy https://cruciallearning.com/blog/mending-family-ties/#comment-94 Wed, 01 Jul 2009 15:41:20 +0000 http://www.crucialskills.com/?p=73#comment-94 The question that popped into my mind when I read this was, “what is the son really mad about?” Is he mad at the brother or mad because he can’t do the activity that he needs the monitary support for. Sometimes that frustration at not being able to carry out a path that is important to you can be redirected to another person who diverted you from the path. the son could really be mad because he can’t come up with another way to achieve his goal and be avoiding the brother so as not to be reminded that he doesn’n have a new path to achieve the goal. Perhaps helping the son understand his heart and motives will help mend his relationship with the brother. Who knows, maybe the brother can help the son establish a new path to his goal even if he doesn’t give him the money for the original path. The son’s attitude to the brother may actually be a barrier to achieving his goal.

New Guy.

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