Comments on: Too Tough “Love”

By: bluecebu

bluecebu — Sun, 06 Aug 2017 15:32:08 +0000

In reply to Jamie Frazier. There is no need to send it to president. In fact, there is a need to send it to the mainstream media, who do nothing but LIE, LIE,LIE!

By: Thanks for the article

Thanks for the article — Thu, 03 Aug 2017 18:27:10 +0000

Excellent article and memorable example. Thank you for sharing this.

By: sharonlyc

sharonlyc — Mon, 31 Jul 2017 18:34:57 +0000

So well said, and so needed!

By: Carolyn Miller

Carolyn Miller — Mon, 31 Jul 2017 00:20:14 +0000

I really appreciate the course. It is such a useful way to get me off my soap box of righteous interpretation of someone else’s behavior and look at the facts in such a way that leaves both of us whole. These new skills will take practice and I am up for the challenge. thanks to all for your sharing and insights.

By: Jamie Frazier

Jamie Frazier — Thu, 27 Jul 2017 14:06:57 +0000

Please forward this column to our President!

By: Sharon Inake

Sharon Inake — Thu, 27 Jul 2017 09:35:36 +0000

By necessity I’ll be entering the world of social media. I have been warned that it’s a nasty culture of stupid and mean put-downs. Any suggestions as to how to handle anonymous nastiness?

By: ken

ken — Wed, 26 Jul 2017 15:55:57 +0000

that will never fly at navy seal hell week

By: Craig Walker

Craig Walker — Wed, 26 Jul 2017 15:19:05 +0000

I am a pastor who tries to live by the Biblical admonition: “Let no unwholesome word proceed from your mouth, but only such a word as is good for edification according to the need of the moment, so that it will give grace to those ho hear.” However, I was never any good at putting this into practice. It was the “give grace to those who hear” that alluded me. My pastor and mentor was a master at it, but as much as I tried to learn from him I never got it. The old patterns of abusive communication I had been brought up under kept derailing my understanding. But I got it when I read Crucial Conversations. You walked me step by step through the process. You illustrated it over and over and reinforce it every week with great stories and examples in your weekly email. I read everyone and I save them all. I teach Crucial Communications to my leaders and I share it with anyone who will listen. I am preparing a series to teach it to my church family. I have discovered that I am not the only one who just doesn’t get it. Other people, like me, have grown up with the poor models and they just don’t get it. They need to be walked step by step through the process. I am grateful for you all for giving me the help I needed to speak words that truly give grace to those who hear. I have learned to talk to almost anyone about anything.
Craig

By: Chuck Calendine

Chuck Calendine — Wed, 26 Jul 2017 15:04:19 +0000

Excellent blog, Mr. Patterson. My wife and I always enjoy your humorous and profoundly insightful contributions (plus we live an hour south of Bellingham and can relate to your descriptions well). Keep ’em coming, please!

By: Sally

Sally — Wed, 26 Jul 2017 15:03:32 +0000

Great article and sooooo true. I have been a victim and understand the method. I have been guilty of the “eye rolling” and now make myself aware and stopped ever doing it again. Thanks you