Comments on: How To Forgive Someone

By: beckahh

beckahh — Mon, 22 Jul 2019 20:06:17 +0000

Great article. I have some of my own responsibilities to ponder with those I find hard to forgive. Thank you. It hit home.

By: Lyn

Lyn — Tue, 13 Nov 2018 00:35:55 +0000

Excellent article. It would be very interesting to learn about your help to the other comments on dealing with anger and forgiveness.

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How to Forgive Someone – Cheryl Bostrom, Author — Fri, 09 Nov 2018 14:19:46 +0000

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By: Sharon Campbell

Sharon Campbell — Thu, 08 Nov 2018 02:36:42 +0000

Forgiveness does not mean that you let them back into your life necessarily. Neither does it mean to forget. Forgiveness means letting go of anger and resentment, and freeing up your heart. But keep your head! You need that if you need to protect yourself from untenable relationships, family or not.

By: Ivette

Ivette — Wed, 07 Nov 2018 16:27:26 +0000

Your statement “It’s risky to forgive if maintaining a feeling of animosity helps you steer clear of physically or emotionally unsafe circumstances.”, resonated with me. I grew up in a very abusive home, and as an adult, I cut ties with many members of my family in order to protect myself and my children. My mother has been dead for many years, but from time to time, I will still have triggers of painful memories of the abuse. I don’t feel like I still hold on to the resentment, but obviously, something is triggering these memories, which will put me in an angry state of mind for a few minutes.

What can I do so that these random memories don’t come flooding back and most importantly, how do I deal with the anger?

Thank you

By: folamobisi

folamobisi — Wed, 07 Nov 2018 16:03:16 +0000

This is wonderful. But I would like you to elaborate on when not to forgive. I have a habit of forgiving too easily and then allowing the same people hurt me over again.

By: Todd

Todd — Wed, 07 Nov 2018 15:38:09 +0000

I am very impressed with the thoughts in this article and appreciate both the question and the answer. I really loved the verbal positioning of the words you used. It is vibrant!

By: Lucia

Lucia — Wed, 07 Nov 2018 15:11:29 +0000

I rarely leave a message but your paragraph “there are times when it is risky to forgive… It’s risky to forgive if maintaining a feeling of animosity helps you steer clear of physically or emotionally unsafe circumstances.” struck a chord. Growing up I have been constantly verbally and physically attacked by my brother who is 5 years older than me. I still remember the fear I had whenever my parents were not home and only my brother and I remained at home. I always have a very good relationship with my dad, which my brother does not have. My brother is jealous of me and bullied me whenever my dad was not around at home. My father had to act as my protector. Towards the end of my father’s life, my brother and my father were like enemies. Now I have grown up and left our town and moved to another country. My brother could not reach me now. I feel so much safer and happier. My relatives and friends do not understand why I cut ties with my brother and do not see him even when I visit my home country. But Rome is not built in one day, the verbal abuse, physical attack, fear and shame I suffered because of my brother during my tender years cannot be erased easily.