Comments on: How to Get Over a Grudge

By: Sandra Price

Sandra Price — Thu, 13 Sep 2018 06:43:13 +0000

I probably don’t think it’s necessary to revisit whether somehow you were really to blame. I think we take the writer at his/her word that the experience reported is the experience lived – including the observation that the boss was notorious for picking people off one at a time. I don’t know about you, but I’ve seen this happen. When people begin to get cozy, a control freak wants them out. A control freak prefers everyone be slightly on edge and dependent. If the writer was a problem employee, successive jobs would have been lost. Why, after complementing the way the exit was handled, why stoke self-doubt?
Things have worked out. You let the writer off the hook for lunch, so why not just let them off the hook period?

By: J. Lynn Jones

J. Lynn Jones — Thu, 13 Sep 2018 00:43:44 +0000

David, I think you really hit the nail on the head with this one – twice even! First of all recognizing that it isn’t necessary to always speak up and second giving advice to use the Mastering Stories skills to put an old grudge to bed. Good job!

By: Mike Hotka

Mike Hotka — Wed, 12 Sep 2018 21:57:56 +0000

I was in a similar situation and also took the high road to transition to a new job. I would not want to meet the old team lead and catch up. It is behind me and that is a good thing.

By: Chason

Chason — Wed, 12 Sep 2018 18:21:47 +0000

He may have been wrong and the partner might not have been moving to fire him.