Comments on: Verbal Violence: Creating a New Normal

By: Victoria

Victoria — Thu, 14 Apr 2022 05:46:43 +0000

In reply to Brenda. Brenda, This whole article is about verbal violence. How is your comment uplifting, edifying or unifying?

By: Lana

Lana — Wed, 13 Apr 2022 22:09:26 +0000

Mr. Patterson, I find myself looking forward to these emails from crucial skills, but I often don’t read who the author is until I open it up and I’m well into reading. I must say I enjoy yours the best and admire your writing style.

Lana

By: Matthew Ewoldt

Matthew Ewoldt — Thu, 07 Apr 2022 14:36:23 +0000

As the old saying goes “to a hammer, everything looks like a nail”. A hammer will always be a hammer BUT we have been given the gift of being able to learn and adapt to new conditions. To get to the “human hammer” that point, there is the rub. This article is very important to those seeking to serve their organizations as servant-leaders.

By: Matthew Ewoldt(Chief Petty Officer, USCG)

Matthew Ewoldt(Chief Petty Officer, USCG) — Thu, 07 Apr 2022 14:19:16 +0000

In reply to Grizzly Bear Mom.

Heads up on the hierarchy – the warrant officer (Wxx)is subordinate to the officer (Oxx) and takes orders from him. The officer writing this article did what should be done – be a team builder, keep the team focused on their task, defuse personal conflicts…

By: Maxwell Biggs

Maxwell Biggs — Thu, 07 Apr 2022 12:02:46 +0000

Being a former senior enlisted in the Navy, I have seen many of those type of leaders, but I have also seen just as many “Silent” leaders. Those leaders that wont speak up or speak out when a problem occurs.

By: Robin Marx

Robin Marx — Wed, 06 Apr 2022 15:42:55 +0000

Kerry, while you have learned to handle that with grace today, your comment may have spared his wife and others years of verbal abuse. I too am guilty of losing my temper and deeply regretting it. I am also the person who intervenes. Both parties are victims. The offender is a victim of unhealthy anger.

I calmly ask the offender are you okay then describe what I am experiencing (you are yelling, your veins are popping out, etc.), you look like you are having a breakdown would you like for me to call 911? This has always worked to calm the offender. Angry people do not want the police called. I have yet to witness a genuine apoplexy but if I do, I will have hopefully initiated the help needed. I would not hesitate to dial 911. Verbal assault is illegal for a reason and should not be tolerated in our society.

If we all defended the defenseless our world would be a better place.

By: Ken Anderson

Ken Anderson — Wed, 06 Apr 2022 15:15:45 +0000

I suggest reading “The Gentle Art of Verbal Self-Defense at Work” along with that book “Influencer.” I provide both to my direct reports and it helps to recognize different paradigms. It also helps combat Malpractice of the Mouth as described by Dr. Elgin. No simple cure but it helps open one’s eyes to the situation and what you can, and cannot, control.

By: Devorah Shoal

Devorah Shoal — Wed, 06 Apr 2022 14:49:19 +0000

In reply to Brenda. This does not add to the conversation and is potentially divisive.

By: 2 communication pitfalls (and how to avoid them)

2 communication pitfalls (and how to avoid them) — Fri, 28 Aug 2020 18:01:40 +0000

[…] in the same space as the hostile individual. Sometimes they would choose to lash out and use “verbal violence” as a strategy to convince, attack, label or control others to their point of view. In other […]

By: Lindsay

Lindsay — Fri, 03 Jun 2016 20:00:31 +0000

Mr. Patterson,

In your article, you stated, “I had no right to be so judgmental and intrusive…” but I would like to respectfully disagree.
It is my belief that when you see an injustice taking place, one in which you are able to confront and possibly curtail, it is your duty to do so.

At any rate, I’m proud of you for your intrusive comment, which was delivered in a manner that struck this man right between the eyes. And the way in which they came to you were nothing short of inspired.

God bless,
Lindsay