I am inclined to think that in a work situation, you (the employer) pays me (the worker) to *DO* things.

Now expecting me to have the feelings you want me to feel, or to have the beliefs that you want me to have, or to believe in whatever set of “alternative facts” you wish to impose on me could violate my freedom of religion, and my freedom to know and believe and feel however I do, without arbitrary work consequences.

If I do what I’m paid to do, and do it well, then what gives my employer the “right” to pry into my feelings, thoughts, and beliefs?

If an employer wants to know such things, and thinks it would be helpful, which it may be, then they need to create a trusting environment and *earn* the trust of the employee. Expecting that an employee is obligated to share their feelings with you because you feel it would be best for them may violate what I consider an appropriate part of an employment agreement.

Reta, I think your observation of how introverts might prefer to relate is right on the mark. Thank you for pointing that out. It suggests that there is nothing “wrong” with the introvert and we should always plan for a second conversation.

Sometimes, we are so good at debating that the other person prefers to disengage or stonewall rather than argue.”

Nowhere did it seem to be indicated that it was because your grand debating skills that she didn’t want to talk with you.

She seems to have said — in plain English — that she was tired of hearing the same two topics getting brought up over and over again.

“Sometimes we think we’re so good at debating that we completely ignore what the other party is actually saying in order to chalk any discrepancies up to our superior skills”.

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