Comments on: Blind and Outnumbered by Life https://cruciallearning.com/blog/blind-and-outnumbered-by-life/ VitalSmarts is now Crucial Learning Thu, 19 Jan 2012 16:29:50 +0000 hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=6.5.2 By: Anne https://cruciallearning.com/blog/blind-and-outnumbered-by-life/#comment-2072 Thu, 19 Jan 2012 16:29:50 +0000 http://www.crucialskills.com/?p=2554#comment-2072 My second husband taught me a valuable lesson when I used to “kitchen-sink” about what I could not do, which could evolve into a laundry list such as this. He told me to “chunk it out” into smaller, more achievable, tasks. This is what you did with the five minute solution. Baby steps eventually become a big picture of improvement. Even if you tidy up the kitchen remodel (I have stayed at friend’s homes with bathroom remodels dating to the late 90’s) it is the sharing of time with people, not the “stuff” that matters. Perspective is everything! I know it might be easy for me to say but eventually my hope for this person is that they join into life with gusto and what really is important to them and what will truly make them happy. Great article!

]]> By: Joyce Martinson https://cruciallearning.com/blog/blind-and-outnumbered-by-life/#comment-2071 Tue, 17 Jan 2012 21:12:45 +0000 http://www.crucialskills.com/?p=2554#comment-2071 WOW ~ I could be “Where to Start” except mine was to be a kitchen remodel until my basement walls started leaking ~ now it is a basement remodel that has been going on for 5.5 months!!! Just now getting willing to let people into my house, as well as the energy to do something about it ~ The “Influencer Training” your company offers helped a bit along with the “Vital Behaviors” ~ thank you!!! to Al Switzler as well as “Where to start”/…

]]> By: Karen Carleton https://cruciallearning.com/blog/blind-and-outnumbered-by-life/#comment-2074 Wed, 11 Jan 2012 19:44:50 +0000 http://www.crucialskills.com/?p=2554#comment-2074 We just need to apply these principles to change ourselves.

]]> By: Bridget Downey https://cruciallearning.com/blog/blind-and-outnumbered-by-life/#comment-2070 Wed, 11 Jan 2012 15:37:37 +0000 http://www.crucialskills.com/?p=2554#comment-2070 Your column itself is a great example of what overwhelmed people CAN do. It is free, quick and easy to read, and comes just frequently enough that it’s fun to read without being a daily chore. Maybe we can’t all afford to attend your wonderful workshops or become experts in this field, but we sure can improve our lives and others by taking just one hint from each of your columns and working on it ’till the next one comes along. Thanks for these wonderful gifts.

]]> By: Dog owner https://cruciallearning.com/blog/blind-and-outnumbered-by-life/#comment-2069 Wed, 11 Jan 2012 15:33:54 +0000 http://www.crucialskills.com/?p=2554#comment-2069 All I hear are excuses. If there is a will, there is a way. When my husband went for his check up, his sugar level was border line. Instead of crying about it and saying poor me, he went to a nutritionist and found out how to change his diet to lower his sugar level. He has lost over 32 pounds and I joined him and lost over 25. When people ask me how I am doing it, I tell them cut out the carbs which include bread, pasta and sugar. Also I do not drink alcohol. Every person comes back and says I can’t do that. If you want something bad enough, you will do it. I also work on our house remodeling it. I have torn rooms apart. Yes I am a woman, work full time. Some nights I was working till 11:00 on the house to get it done. If you want it bad enough, you will find a way.

]]> By: Robert Sells https://cruciallearning.com/blog/blind-and-outnumbered-by-life/#comment-2068 Wed, 11 Jan 2012 15:11:58 +0000 http://www.crucialskills.com/?p=2554#comment-2068 My mother taught me a long time ago that a true friend will not care about how your house looks, especially if you are in the middle of a remodel. A true friend visits you not your house. If they can’t come over to see you because of the way your house looks, then they are not a true friend.
A true friend may even give helpful hints or even lend a hand in the remodel or even help straightening up the house. That’s what friends are for.

]]> By: Brenda https://cruciallearning.com/blog/blind-and-outnumbered-by-life/#comment-2067 Wed, 11 Jan 2012 15:08:49 +0000 http://www.crucialskills.com/?p=2554#comment-2067 I manage clutter by 2 guidelines:

1. Clean as you go. Don’t create piles. Put it away or throw it away as soon as you’re finished with it.

2. Do what needs to be done, when it needs to be done, whether you feel like it or not. The last seven words in this guideline are the most important. I find that I’m saying this to myself frequently.

]]> By: Dave https://cruciallearning.com/blog/blind-and-outnumbered-by-life/#comment-2066 Wed, 11 Jan 2012 14:42:09 +0000 http://www.crucialskills.com/?p=2554#comment-2066 I love this article, because it encourages me to focus on what I can do, and that reminds me of a former professor.
Years ago, those of us who worked for him in the lab used to laugh at him behind his back because he always seemed so spaced out, and we called his office the black hole, because anything we left there disappeared. But one day he popped into the lab and asked me a question. I launched into an answer with a long-winded explanation of why I couldn’t do it. He interrupted me with, “Let’s focus on what we can do,” with his emphasis on the can.
That response has stayed with me the rest of my life, partly because this man walked his talk. You see, shortly after that, he became an astronaut and took two flights on the space shuttle. When he retired from astronaut duty, he became Dean of Engineering at my alma mater. The last I’ve heard of him, he was undersecretary of defense in Washington, DC.
His name? Ron Sega. I will always remember Dr. Sega as the can-do man. Let’s focus on what we can do.

]]> By: Ronnetta Lee https://cruciallearning.com/blog/blind-and-outnumbered-by-life/#comment-2065 Wed, 11 Jan 2012 13:42:22 +0000 http://www.crucialskills.com/?p=2554#comment-2065 Dear Al:
Not sure how you did it but this morning you gave me what I needed to hear. I could have been at coffee with you or just talking but your post touched me and I had to write.
Thank you for your suggestions and firm comments. I have felt that your website is a godsend ever since I took the crucial conversations class, I tell everyone it saved my job and thus my life.
Oh well got it off my chest.
Have a great day.
Ronnetta

]]> By: Peggy Berry https://cruciallearning.com/blog/blind-and-outnumbered-by-life/#comment-2073 Wed, 11 Jan 2012 03:24:14 +0000 http://www.crucialskills.com/?p=2554#comment-2073 I so agree!

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