Comments on: How to Confront the Workplace Bully

By: William Tucker

William Tucker — Tue, 22 Jun 2021 20:18:49 +0000

In reply to Joyce Allen. talk to HR

By: Sandra Cavers

Sandra Cavers — Sat, 26 Dec 2020 06:37:57 +0000

In reply to EAD. I am dealing with the same type of struggle, an individual that bullies and gets away with it, has at least one human rights complaint against him and I threatened one but didn't follow through. He's influenced other managers about me in a negative light and denies any wrong doing repeatedly, saying I'm playing the victim. How does one combat someone of influence that intentionally halts your career because you stood up to him? Being a woman and knowing he has serious issues with women...this man has almost destroyed me and actively hindered my career. Any tips would be welcome.

By: Sam

Sam — Wed, 13 May 2020 20:24:46 +0000

I have dealt with work place bulling since my first day on the job, my boss does nothing but have a talk with the person. It has been brought to my attention that she has been doing this for years(20yrs) to people not only in my department but others. I have tried sticking up for myself only to get treated worse by the bully. Now the other people I work with directly have started treating me that same way she does. Even though one of them often asked me why I get treated so differently than everyone else. To that I have no reply other than some people just think it is their right to treat people however they want. I am currently looking for another job because after a 1 1/2 yrs of this I cannot take it anymore, if affects my home life and work life. To all you bullies I hope KARMA comes around. We are not in grade school any more people, we are adults lets act like it, you don’t have to like the person you work with but you need to show some respect.

By: Nelson da Silva

Nelson da Silva — Thu, 23 Apr 2020 15:29:13 +0000

In reply to Dean Jarvis. Great reply!

By: Kimberly Taylor

Kimberly Taylor — Thu, 19 Apr 2018 20:27:55 +0000

All of these tips are helpful but I think the most important thing I can take away from this is to leave the emotions out-confront the facts. I do not like confrontational situations in the first place let alone knowing how I usually react when I’m feeling upset/overwhelmed. It is easy to let emotions take over and I found this little article insightful Now I just need to calm myself prior to having these conversations to ensure I can stay on track.

By: Yani Molina

Yani Molina — Fri, 06 Apr 2018 12:54:31 +0000

I loved the tip about reverse thinking. Sometimes we just need to be more courageous and take action. I have learned in time that not speaking is the worst we can do, however we need to be accurate in what we say.

By: marti

marti — Thu, 31 Aug 2017 17:20:17 +0000

Although I haven’t experienced bullying in the work place; this information is helpful to possibly assist others on how to handle.

By: MW-V

MW-V — Sun, 07 May 2017 20:44:01 +0000

I appreciate reading the comments. It made me realized that perhaps I was bullied over the years. I was hired to be a project manager. I noticed that not matter what I did, it was never good enough for our executive. I learned that I was not the choice of the executive. Therefore, every piece of work, every idea, every breadth as it related to me were NOT good enough even though it was considered EXCELLENT work by my director and manager. It got so that when I did work, my director and manager had to NOT revealed who did the work in fear that the executive would reject. It went on for a couple of years.

By: Sally

Sally — Thu, 20 Apr 2017 14:37:32 +0000

I have been in my supervisory position for 11 years and for the entire time have been dealing with a staff person who tends to bully people to get her way. She has been reprimanded several times and was once close to being fired. She recognizes her tendencies and can sometimes be very sweet and endearing to others. You can almost “see” when she is ramping up to strike out at someone. How do I use that opportunity to ramp her down before she strikes out?

By: Anara

Anara — Sat, 23 Apr 2016 19:36:21 +0000

In reply to Jenn. I was in the exact same situation several years ago. The team bully took pride in running off new supervisors and I was the third in one year. My first step was to create trust from the team. I held a team meeting where we set goals for the team, being mindful of turning the complaints the bully offered into an opportunity for team-based problem solving. I then scheduled a brief 1:1 get to know you with each team member to learn about their backgrounds and individual goals. Many felt safe in sharing their concerns about the bully. The bully was hostile during our meeting, and I worked hard to find common ground while setting boundaries. We had a rocky couple months. Like most bullies she had to test. But as the team saw that I was not budging in my boundaries they became more vocal and grew stronger together. She was standing out more and more. I think what really helped her develop trust in me was my asking her to share her experience and knowledge during team problem solving and when a temporary job came up that matched her skills I asked her if she wanted the additional responsibility. She needed to be valued, and respecting her while insisting she respected others is what turned our professional relationship around.