Comments on: How Can I Get My Boss to Respect My Boundaries? https://cruciallearning.com/blog/how-can-i-get-my-boss-to-respect-my-boundaries/ VitalSmarts is now Crucial Learning Thu, 19 Oct 2023 18:05:34 +0000 hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=6.5.2 By: Julinda https://cruciallearning.com/blog/how-can-i-get-my-boss-to-respect-my-boundaries/#comment-11363 Thu, 19 Oct 2023 18:05:34 +0000 https://cruciallearning.com/?p=22687#comment-11363 I agree with several of the comments above that a “crucial conversation” needs to take place before “Legal Trouble” decides how to proceed.

]]> By: ARTHUR LEE RODGERS https://cruciallearning.com/blog/how-can-i-get-my-boss-to-respect-my-boundaries/#comment-11298 Thu, 28 Sep 2023 11:51:41 +0000 https://cruciallearning.com/?p=22687#comment-11298 Great advice! This mindset can really be applied to a multitude of situations, not just employer/employee.

]]> By: Ann https://cruciallearning.com/blog/how-can-i-get-my-boss-to-respect-my-boundaries/#comment-11297 Wed, 27 Sep 2023 20:20:48 +0000 https://cruciallearning.com/?p=22687#comment-11297 As a lawyer, I would be worried about a colleague who used to be on top of things but is now slipping. Legal secretaries are astute at spotting such problems. Client needs must take priority. Are court deadlines being missed? Are clients being ignored–phone calls not returned, emails unanswered, etc.? LT should seriously consider going to the office manager or managing partner to raise these concerns. To be most effective, LT should stress the risk to clients, rather than her own feelings.

]]> By: kathleentague https://cruciallearning.com/blog/how-can-i-get-my-boss-to-respect-my-boundaries/#comment-11296 Wed, 27 Sep 2023 17:43:51 +0000 https://cruciallearning.com/?p=22687#comment-11296 Piggybacking on Joseph’s response, another possible outcome to holding to your boundaries is that the boss’ behavior will change after experiencing the consequences a few times. Assuming you have had a heart-to-heart discussion in which you explain that you would like to be able to stay later but just cannot because of your obligations to your family, and prioritizing her letters first thing the following morning.

]]> By: Tom https://cruciallearning.com/blog/how-can-i-get-my-boss-to-respect-my-boundaries/#comment-11295 Wed, 27 Sep 2023 14:43:07 +0000 https://cruciallearning.com/?p=22687#comment-11295 Another possible option, a crucial conversation, Ask what has changed, as originally the letters came back in a timely way that worked well. Then ask what can be done differently to get this back on track.

]]> By: Roz https://cruciallearning.com/blog/how-can-i-get-my-boss-to-respect-my-boundaries/#comment-11294 Wed, 27 Sep 2023 14:42:12 +0000 https://cruciallearning.com/?p=22687#comment-11294 I love this response as it gets to the heart of the issue. It isn’t about the letters… if that gets resolved, something else will come up that is similar. I wished I had learned earlier on in my career that my choice to stay contributed to the fact that I had to deal with toxic work environments year after year. You work through what you can work through, but at the end of the day it is your choice to remain in that situation or find a new one. You may lose out on opportunities or money, but you may be better off for it. In the end, your employment is your choice. Change what you can change and accept what you can’t. Then decide your next move from there.

]]> By: Courtney https://cruciallearning.com/blog/how-can-i-get-my-boss-to-respect-my-boundaries/#comment-11293 Wed, 27 Sep 2023 14:39:11 +0000 https://cruciallearning.com/?p=22687#comment-11293 I agree with the two solutions above, and there may be another way to improve the work environment and your relationship. I would request a meeting with he to have a crucial conversation that starts with what you really want (ex. do you want to address this one point of conflict that you provided as an example or are you in general struggling to function as an effective team) and focuses on the facts. If I’m understanding your message, it seems that the circumstances lead to an inability to complete the tasks in the given timeline leaves you feeling like you’re unable to meet expectations. Give her the opportunity to share her perspective and if she wants to share any obstacles that she’s been facing which is causing the change in her work. Work together to find a solution, whether that’s a meeting time at 3:00PM to review letters/feedback or perhaps you can prepare the letters the evening before and ask her to review them so you can send them out in the morning. This may improve your work environment or help you to better assess whether the job is the right fit for you.

]]> By: Connie https://cruciallearning.com/blog/how-can-i-get-my-boss-to-respect-my-boundaries/#comment-11292 Wed, 27 Sep 2023 13:52:08 +0000 https://cruciallearning.com/?p=22687#comment-11292 In reply to Renee.

That’s what I was thinking too Renee. It sounds like the system is broken, so change the system and hopefully it should go more smoothly.
Having 30 minutes together might also give her some time to get to know the boss so she can figure out whats going on – getting the stress of the letters done may help her relieve time constraints and stress on the boss to change their dynamic.

]]> By: Renee https://cruciallearning.com/blog/how-can-i-get-my-boss-to-respect-my-boundaries/#comment-11291 Wed, 27 Sep 2023 13:12:45 +0000 https://cruciallearning.com/?p=22687#comment-11291 It sounds like it only takes 30 minutes for her to review the letters. Perhaps rather than handing her the letters to review early in the morning, you could schedule a daily 30-minute meeting in which the two of you review and discuss the necessary revisions.

]]> By: Abby https://cruciallearning.com/blog/how-can-i-get-my-boss-to-respect-my-boundaries/#comment-11290 Wed, 27 Sep 2023 12:55:43 +0000 https://cruciallearning.com/?p=22687#comment-11290 Option 3 – Instead of communicating on a one-off basis that you have to leave at X time, have a conversation with your boss about her expectations moving forward and whether the two of you can work out an understanding/compromise that will at the very least establish clear expectations that you can take or leave (stay/quit), without relying on your interpretation of her mood/snippiness/etc.

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