Comments on: How to Get Respect From the Boss https://cruciallearning.com/blog/how-to-get-respect-from-the-boss/ VitalSmarts is now Crucial Learning Thu, 27 Jul 2017 23:04:43 +0000 hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=6.5.2 By: Vernel https://cruciallearning.com/blog/how-to-get-respect-from-the-boss/#comment-5920 Thu, 27 Jul 2017 23:04:43 +0000 http://www.vitalsmarts.com/crucialskills/?p=7049#comment-5920 Is he using the boss as a sounding board — bringing things to him that the guy doesn’t need to weigh in on, things that he should just take care of? How might he be contributing to the boss’s inatttention?

]]> By: Dam Seidman https://cruciallearning.com/blog/how-to-get-respect-from-the-boss/#comment-5919 Sat, 15 Jul 2017 21:27:32 +0000 http://www.vitalsmarts.com/crucialskills/?p=7049#comment-5919 Shocked at your advice here, it’s very short-sighted. I love your organization and your books are gold. But this statement;

“…if you can’t find a way to accept your boss’s behavior and feel good about it—then your choice comes down to either convincing your boss to change or leaving his employment.” is what a child would think.

Every business pro needs to learn how to work with every possible personality. Yet you say change the guy running the company, the one responsible for it’s success, the one signing your paycheck OR you leave?

In coaching both sales professionals and athletes for 30 years, my starting point in helping others attain greatness is that we all need the mental agility to work with anyone.

You’re a player who doesn’t like the coach? Get used to it – the yellers, the calm ones, the clinical, the stats-oriented. Winners can work with anyone. Don’t get me wrong, they can move on and do. In fact, part of your right as an elite athlete or business pro is you have the choice to move on. Because you’re employable and successful anywhere.

But everyone else (meaning 99% of everyone) has to learn to adapt.

Really disappointed that a fantastic article is marked by one bad piece of advice.

]]> By: Dale Brochis https://cruciallearning.com/blog/how-to-get-respect-from-the-boss/#comment-5918 Thu, 13 Jul 2017 13:35:20 +0000 http://www.vitalsmarts.com/crucialskills/?p=7049#comment-5918 Here’s my take. He’s new, and his first priority is to learn how to communicate with his boss. I would NOT get up and leave if interrupted. I would look at the interruptions and bathroom breaks as things the boss needs to deal with all the time.

If he doesn’t stop them (because he can’t/chooses not to), just ask the boss – “I see you’re kind of busy now, would another time be better for you?” If the boss says no time is better, then suggest that you hit all topics broadly initially so you can tell him what he needs to hear, and then delve into details. This way he knows you respect his role in his business, are meeting his needs, and will give him everything he needs upfront so if there is an issue he needs to focus on, maybe, JUST MAYBE, he’ll tell someone to come back in 10 minutes.

]]> By: Cathy W https://cruciallearning.com/blog/how-to-get-respect-from-the-boss/#comment-5917 Thu, 13 Jul 2017 11:23:48 +0000 http://www.vitalsmarts.com/crucialskills/?p=7049#comment-5917 My boss is like the this boss and it is because she is brilliant and constantly multitasks. I have been worked with her as she grew the company from 10 to 4000 employees and I have learned to adapt to her style of relating to her employees. From my experience, bosses of this kind do not put a lot of stock into formal meetings; instead as the employee you always need to be prepared for 5-10 minute conversations in the hallway or on the phone where you present your perspective in a clear and direct way in response to the boss’s request for information or ideas. You focus on solutions or projections, not feelings. And it is during these conversations that you explain in a sentence or two how you or your department can contribute and grow within the context of the boss’s current issue. The more you are prepared to talk when the boss wants to talk, the more successful your relationship.

]]> By: Susan https://cruciallearning.com/blog/how-to-get-respect-from-the-boss/#comment-5916 Wed, 12 Jul 2017 16:20:37 +0000 http://www.vitalsmarts.com/crucialskills/?p=7049#comment-5916 In reply to Ralph.

Ralph, your approach, which may have worked for you, seems passive aggressive and disrespectful to the owner/leader. There is an existing culture that the new manager is going to have to navigate that new culture and in the end choose to either have a crucial conversation or leave the situation. I actually really like this article because you need to ask yourself the what-ifs.

]]> By: Gladys https://cruciallearning.com/blog/how-to-get-respect-from-the-boss/#comment-5915 Wed, 12 Jul 2017 15:47:44 +0000 http://www.vitalsmarts.com/crucialskills/?p=7049#comment-5915 In reply to Judy.

Good point. Hard to focus on a conversation when your bladder is full.

]]> By: Sandra Sawle https://cruciallearning.com/blog/how-to-get-respect-from-the-boss/#comment-5914 Wed, 12 Jul 2017 15:46:42 +0000 http://www.vitalsmarts.com/crucialskills/?p=7049#comment-5914 Good advice! No one can make you feel inferior (or devalued) without your consent. My approach is usually a simple “when you do ____, I feel ____”, followed by a recommendation for improving the situation. I own my feelings and usually the other person didn’t even realize they were doing the thing that bothered me. We both walk away with more awareness of the other person’s intent or perception.

]]> By: Judy https://cruciallearning.com/blog/how-to-get-respect-from-the-boss/#comment-5913 Wed, 12 Jul 2017 15:43:20 +0000 http://www.vitalsmarts.com/crucialskills/?p=7049#comment-5913 I think another scenario for consideration on the boss taking bathroom breaks has nothing to do with devaluing an employee but may be the result of a medical condition or side effect from medications.

]]> By: Clifford Spoonemore https://cruciallearning.com/blog/how-to-get-respect-from-the-boss/#comment-5912 Wed, 12 Jul 2017 15:41:01 +0000 http://www.vitalsmarts.com/crucialskills/?p=7049#comment-5912 very interesting: I had a boss that would refuse to take a phone calls while engaged in a conversation. I asked why? He said that a phone call is the same as someone dropping in. They have to wait their turn.

So when I drop in on my boss and he receives a phone call I make the decision…. go ahead and take it or not. To let my boss know I will return if need be or our conversation can be concluded.

There maybe an open door policy, but for me if the door is closed. Then come back. I leave my door open an inch if a person has to drop something off real quick with no conversation. If I don’t want to be interrupted the door is fully closed. I have shared that expectation with those in our office.

Not knowing the importance of the business. The only item that I would ask to change is the interruption of fellow employees. They should respect the value of a person sitting in front of the boss. And they most likely don’t like it when they are sitting with the boss and others interrupt their conversation.

I do like that fact that you should ask, “is there a better time so the conversation can be uninterrupted”. It may take some time and effort but the boss will soon know that you just want the one-on-one time to be productive.

]]> By: Patricia Pitsel https://cruciallearning.com/blog/how-to-get-respect-from-the-boss/#comment-5911 Wed, 12 Jul 2017 15:07:30 +0000 http://www.vitalsmarts.com/crucialskills/?p=7049#comment-5911 I thought David’s response was brilliant – especially the two alternate explanations of the bosses’ behavior. Time and time again I coach clients at the beginning of their story by asking – “and what else -what else might explain this story?

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