Comments on: Foul Language at Work—To Confront or Not to Confront?

By: GH

GH — Sat, 26 Sep 2020 16:11:13 +0000

Being offended by mere language is a learned behavior, and frankly one that should be unlearned.

By: Gentle Reminder

Gentle Reminder — Wed, 14 Aug 2019 14:17:22 +0000

Gabriel, there are two groups under two different fathers. One father was referred to by Jesus as the god of this world. The other is our heavenly Father. Our role is reconciliation by love. We are not here to judge the former; we are here to judge ourselves. When that judgement is turned outward (esp toward the former), the plank in eye own eyes blinds us and our effectiveness in reconciling is lost. It is not our job to be the Holy Spirit. The only sin for the former group that prevents them from receiving His Spirit (by whom alone we are able to overcome sin) is denying Jesus as Lord and Savior. We are commanded to “Heal the sick, raise the dead, cleanse those who have leprosy, drive out demons. Freely you have received; freely give” not to be easily offended by others words or actions. If we cannot abide something as simple as the f word we cannot expect someone to feel safe enough to discuss a desire for forgiveness because let’s face it – the f bomb usually pales in comparison.

To expect those who have never received Him not to curse or to change their behavior to make us more comfortable is not what Jesus did. He spent His precious time with them, fed them, and healed them. Let us remember that if we could have overcome sin on our own without the Holy Spirit, Jesus died for nothing.

By: Gabriel riah

Gabriel riah — Wed, 14 Aug 2019 12:02:09 +0000

Nowadays, people are so used to speak offensive words as curse words; They think it is a normal thing to do because they live with it everyday. I am speaking here from spiritual point of view, and I say speaking profanity anywhere is NOT a good thing. The words of God are against it. Lord Jesus said “For by your words you will be justified, and by your words you will be condemned.” Some people may say to me, well, we live in a business world and the words of God is only for church. People do not know that this world is framed by the laws and commandments of God and judges the people from their very own thought and feeling. The Book of Genesis said “Then the Lord saw that the wickedness of man was great in the earth, and that every intent of the thoughts of his heart was only evil continually. And the Lord was sorry that He had made man on the earth, and He was grieved in His heart. So the Lord said, “I will destroy man whom I have created from the face of the earth, both man and beast, creeping thing and birds of the air, for I am sorry that I have made them.” The Lord Jesus prophesied the time will come when lawlessness will abound and the love of many will grow cold. We live in the last days and people act as what the words of God has said about them. These people do not know there a spiritual cup which measures sins. When the Lord God sees it overflows, judgment comes. God is the God of peace; He only wants peace on earth. Speaking profanity is violence and the Lord God hates it. The GOOD NEWS is there will be restoration of all things, a time when all things will come back to the way it was as in the Garden of Eden. The BAD NEWS is the people who do not like ancient way of life, a time when all things and everyone are being governed by the laws and commandments of God, will be abolished from the earth and none of them will remain. People need to know the words of God is not a comic book, the Creator placed it on the earth as an instruction of life to teach everyone on how they must live in order to achieve a prosperous, healthy, peaceful, and long life as the tree that lives forever.

Psalms 34
Come, you children, listen to me;
I will teach you the fear of the Lord.
Who is the man who desires life,
and loves many days, that he may see good?
Keep your tongue from evil,
and your lips from speaking deceit.
Depart from evil and do good;
Seek peace and pursue it.

—The Spirit and the bride in Mount Zion,
Heavenly Jerusalem,
Gabriel riah

By: Kristina Ransopher

Kristina Ransopher — Wed, 05 Jun 2019 06:40:17 +0000

In reply to Linda McDonald.

I live in a shared housing community for single mothers, so of course there are children here. We have certain roomates who argue on a regular basis, slamming doors, screaming and cussing at each other in the common areas and in their room loud enough for everyone to hear. When not arguing, profanity is used as often as any other word. Personally I think that words are just that…words. Some words are offensive why? is it because they actually are or is it because we are raised to believe they are? I also am still unsure (at 37!!…get with the program right?!! )of what I believe spiritually ,however there is a christian family here. Regardless though of what I may think or how I may feel, Moral character tells me that in public situations, stores, shared housing, work (especially in the presence of customers) it is inappropriate and unnecessary to use offensive language, this includes using God’s name improperly. Not only is it incredibly rude, inconsiderate and disrespectful…..i feel it tends to make you look like a fool…I still struggle with this though, because just like my opinion of the words themselves, my belief of this behavior as rude is also my opinion not really a fact..?! right?!?! IM SO CONFUSED!! that said, I too wonder if I should say something to the roomates….?

By: Linda McDonald

Linda McDonald — Tue, 04 Jun 2019 15:42:57 +0000

I am the only woman, the office manager, that works in a European Auto Repair Shop. Every other word is the ‘f’ word. And even worse; Gda* I feel like they don’t respect me at all or appreciate my love for God. And even if I wasn’t a Christian, the ugliness is abrasive…to me. Would they use that language in front of their grandmother? Would they use that language in front of their pastor? I’ve even, playfully, asked them to think of me as their grandma! LOL Just because an ugly word has become part of so many peoples’ language; does that make it good? I’ve had to shush them before when a Mennonite customer was in the office! And then I think, ‘don’t I deserve as much respect as ANYONE? Maybe I’m in the wrong business? LOL But then, cursing is not necessary; is it? Can they not control their own mouths?

By: Albert

Albert — Mon, 19 Dec 2016 15:14:07 +0000

In reply to Cricket. This varies company to company. Our company recently changed the policy so that such behavior is only "actionable" it damages the person hearing it monetarily or prevents them from doing their job. Our mid-level managers use foul language and make jokes about disabled people, so nothing would be done about it.

By: Cricket

Cricket — Wed, 14 Dec 2016 22:06:08 +0000

Scenario: An employee is in their own office, having a casual conversation with another coworker, but the office door is open. This is not in a customer-service area; there are only coworkers in surrounding spaces. They are discussing a particularly belligerent customer, whom one refers to as a “F’g A-hole” – again, no customers around – just staff offices. A neighboring co-worker (immediate co-workers for over 10 years) overhears it, and rather than express their discomfort directly to their foul-mouthed neighbor, files an anonymous complaint to the HR Department.

How would you expect an HR professional to handle that complaint?

By: Keep it clean

Keep it clean — Wed, 14 Dec 2016 18:26:36 +0000

David, your response surprises me. I expect (and normally observe) higher levels of self control and civiilty from those higher in our organizations. This applies to the use of profane language in particular. We should promote higher expectations of civility in the workplace and tactfully challenge those who insist on routine use of profane language. Otherwise, it will be increasingly difficult to find safety in conversations with peers, subordinates, and superiors.

By: Jerry Hargett

Jerry Hargett — Tue, 13 Dec 2016 17:08:42 +0000

As a manager, I have set the standard that no foul language is to be used in meetings whether in person or on the phone. Its just not professional. If a manager uses foul language, then the managers reports will deem it as an acceptable behavior. This will carry over to interactions with fellow employees and with our customers which can lead to conflicts and misunderstandings. I have had the comment that “that’s just the way I talk and I really can’t help it sometimes” My response is that it is a choice and I ask them the question” Would you use the same language in the presence of your mother or a minister? The answer is always the same, “no”. If we accept foul language as normal, then we are saying that we cannot control ourselves or recognize when our words are inappropriate. Our customers and fellow employees need to know that we have respect for them and I believe this will carry over to a more productive and successful environment at work and at home.

By: MamaZ

MamaZ — Tue, 13 Dec 2016 16:10:52 +0000

I fine my co-workers $10 every time the f bomb comes out. I don’t collect, but I keep adding the amount up. Around $30 accumulated, they get the message.