Comments on: The ABCs of Reaching Agreement

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The ABCs of Reaching Agreement | School Leaders... — Wed, 21 Aug 2013 15:20:59 +0000

[…] I'm the team leader of an increasingly dysfunctional team. Our tasks require a high degree of coordination and we often have to figure out what to do as we go. But we're stuck in a pattern of argui… […]

By: Betty Noyes

Betty Noyes — Wed, 01 May 2013 16:35:07 +0000

I wish Congress would do this!

By: Sandy Gieber

Sandy Gieber — Wed, 01 May 2013 14:20:09 +0000

Thanks for the insights. I would like to offer another layer… Often times disagreements are result of folks not feeling honored for their opinions, thoughts, feelings, reactions. If they don’t feel motivated, don’t feel others are (genuinely) recognizing their conviction and opinions, and/or their logic and ideas, they attempt to get this recognition through negative attention. At this point, they would rather justify their negative behavior, rather than being effective. When this happens, they attack others that don’t believe the same, they preach, they are very opinionated and act self-righteous. They become very critical of others and attack from the “you” position. A formula for effective communication we use (out of the Process Communication Model from Taibi Kahler) is to, as much as possible, recognize these folks for their opinions, convictions, work and time structure. When they feel recognized, they feel “heard.” When they feel heard, they don’t attack – they can agree to disagree and go on.

By: David

David — Wed, 01 May 2013 14:11:59 +0000

When I read this I wondered if it was sent in by President Obama?