Comments on: How to Give Unsolicited Advice https://cruciallearning.com/blog/how-to-give-unsolicited-advice/ VitalSmarts is now Crucial Learning Thu, 09 Aug 2012 01:52:34 +0000 hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=6.5.2 By: Sharon Hamersley https://cruciallearning.com/blog/how-to-give-unsolicited-advice/#comment-2635 Thu, 09 Aug 2012 01:52:34 +0000 http://www.crucialskills.com/?p=3334#comment-2635 Boy I wish I had read this about a week ago! I had some concerns about a client who was doing work my company was hired to do, and expressed them to the client who became quite defensive. I can see that I forgot about the asking for their point of view part…:<(. Hopefully I'll remember this step in the future!

]]> By: David Penglase https://cruciallearning.com/blog/how-to-give-unsolicited-advice/#comment-2634 Wed, 08 Aug 2012 23:01:56 +0000 http://www.crucialskills.com/?p=3334#comment-2634 Ron, as always, this post is wonderfully practical and a proven approach. I am sharing your links, recommending your book and continue to sing your praises down here in Australia. You guys are the thought leaders in this field, and just a quick note to Jan (Comment #1), stick with the thought leaders in this field who have completed the years of validated research on what does and doesn’t work. Being clear on your intention and using the approach Ron is recommending will build on your mutual respect and mutual understanding in your trust relationship with your Sensei. Warm regards, David

]]> By: Greg https://cruciallearning.com/blog/how-to-give-unsolicited-advice/#comment-2633 Wed, 08 Aug 2012 21:00:00 +0000 http://www.crucialskills.com/?p=3334#comment-2633 I totally agree with elsy mejia-carpio.

It’s perfectly natural to want to give-back to someone who’s helped us so much. I think by following the advice given you can damage a good relationship. I suggest, back away from this idea and think no more about discussing it with your teacher. Find another way to express your gratitude.

And consider, it’s likely these various gross “oversights” have been brought up before.

]]> By: Kim Ellis https://cruciallearning.com/blog/how-to-give-unsolicited-advice/#comment-2632 Wed, 08 Aug 2012 18:41:06 +0000 http://www.crucialskills.com/?p=3334#comment-2632 Thank you so much for this wonderful outline of how to handle delicate situations such as these. I’m printing this & putting it into my “what if” file.

Blessings!

]]> By: Kate https://cruciallearning.com/blog/how-to-give-unsolicited-advice/#comment-2631 Wed, 08 Aug 2012 15:22:40 +0000 http://www.crucialskills.com/?p=3334#comment-2631 “I do want to share some ideas that will reduce your worries and help your business succeed into the future.” I would not recommend saying this. The Sensei never said he was worried–it’s actually the student who is worried. Don’t assume to know someone else’s feelings. The student might instead say, “I do want to share some ideas that could help your business.”

]]> By: elsy mejia-carpio https://cruciallearning.com/blog/how-to-give-unsolicited-advice/#comment-2630 Wed, 08 Aug 2012 14:41:56 +0000 http://www.crucialskills.com/?p=3334#comment-2630 I will recommend don’t ask don’t tell because it is a personal matter. Your boss is well mature and many years with the business which means he knows what he is doing. As a young person you assume according to your knowledge and perception but assuming does not lead you to the right solution. Private matters need to keep private. Unless you are a relative it would be easy to talk to anyone your point of view. Things are not always the way we see them.

I can see that you are a sensible person just let it go. A mature person will always ask for advise to the right person. Keep friendly and if he approch you and ask your opinion then start give him your opinion. I will not consider as an advise unless you are an accountant or you own a business.

]]> By: Janet https://cruciallearning.com/blog/how-to-give-unsolicited-advice/#comment-2629 Wed, 08 Aug 2012 14:40:17 +0000 http://www.crucialskills.com/?p=3334#comment-2629 Hmmm… If a student approached me in this fashion, I would assume after not very many words, that he wanted to sell me something. I would assume he saw me as a sales target and was setting me up, which would make me suspicious. Therefore, I believe it would be essential to mention up front that this is not a prelude to a sales pitch.

]]> By: Jan Cohen https://cruciallearning.com/blog/how-to-give-unsolicited-advice/#comment-2628 Wed, 08 Aug 2012 14:18:33 +0000 http://www.crucialskills.com/?p=3334#comment-2628 Excellent advice!! I hope everything works out for the student and his sensei.

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