Comments on: Shady Past Seeking a White-Collar Job

By: Andy Kelly

Andy Kelly — Wed, 24 Oct 2012 22:17:13 +0000

I never fail to be fascinated by the insights you provide. Many thanks.
Andy (Australia)

By: Grizzly Bear Mom

Grizzly Bear Mom — Sun, 27 Nov 2011 22:17:06 +0000

As a prison ministry volunteer my resreach shows that ex cons can get jobs after release even if they refer to their conviction. However if they omit that they were in prison on applications but are asked they can be fired. They can even get employed by the Federal government and obtain clearances depending on the conviction but we are currently received 300 applicaitons for every opening.

By: Stephen Pellegrino

Stephen Pellegrino — Thu, 10 Nov 2011 16:57:27 +0000

Joseph,
I actually use this exact video when I teach Crucial Conversations.
I my opinion, the current material glosses too quickly over the “see and hear” phase and I spend some time pointing out that we all walk around with a flashlight (what we attend to), blinders (what we miss), big goggles (how we filter) and a screen hanging in front of us like a carrot (what we want and expect) with various other exercises to make the point that you REALLY do need to get other people’s perspective on what should be in the pool because you really have missed alot and it’s not only about what meanings we and others attach.
Stephen

By: Joseph Grenny

Joseph Grenny — Wed, 09 Nov 2011 20:42:28 +0000

Laura, I like your suggestion of intentionally changing what you're looking for In a hiring interview. I think that would serve to "broaden the mental instructions" you give your brains. @Laura Cooley

By: Laura Cooley

Laura Cooley — Wed, 09 Nov 2011 20:13:57 +0000

This video provided does not include the fact that our brains can track motion and not background at the same time (see the research being done by Las Vegas magicians and neuroscience researchers). The reason people do not see the gorilla is because they are following the instructions, and count how many times something moves. I should like it if your assessment included the need for redefining what you are looking for in an employee. Rather than looking for the labels, you might want to invite curiosity about what you may be missing about the person since you do have labels for them, or look for evidence that contradicts your opinion.

If you can’t see a huge gorilla becasue your brain can’t track motion and the background at the same time, then it is not the best example of the principle you are illustrating in my “increasingly with age humble opinion”.

I have witnessed this same video being used as to determine who can “think outside the box” and can’t, those who see it being the ones that can think outside the box. What it shows is that those who count the passes accurately are better at following the instructions and less distracted than those whose eyes wander off task and notice the gorilla.
Enjoying your newsletters to no end, thanks for all your good work.

By: sufia

sufia — Wed, 09 Nov 2011 05:26:42 +0000

similarly.. when you start dating and have been in active addiction/alcoholism in the past…

By: sufia

sufia — Wed, 09 Nov 2011 05:24:03 +0000

an excellent explanation for when to share the absolute truth.. timing is important.. and so is the truth… but i got to see the gorrilla though i counted fewer passes… what does that say about me…?