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By: Sue Favorite

Sue Favorite — Thu, 15 Mar 2012 05:39:14 +0000

When Kerry answered “Faint of Heart” it was never mentioned about setting a good example in front of her daughter and the other women’s daughter. I feel the advise was good, but as a parent we have to remember that our children are watching. And when they watch us they will repeat our actions. I would suggest be the bigger person and set the right example for our children.

By: Kathy Adams

Kathy Adams — Wed, 28 Jul 2010 15:38:11 +0000

While I too acknowledge any of us for taking action after many years, I find it challenging to determine what my response would be if the behavior continues. In my case, I have an internal customer who I find treats me and others in very demeaning and cruel ways. I won’t quit a job I love because of this person. AND I don’t want to sound like I’m threatening with WHATEVER I indicate my response may be to this continued habit. So I’m left with little that I can say in terms of how I would respond if the behavior continues. Do you have some suggestions?

By: Brenda

Brenda — Wed, 28 Jul 2010 15:37:05 +0000

Dear Kerry,Joseph, Ron, and Al,
I always look forward to Wednesday mornings when I know the next Crucial Skills newsletter will be in my email inbox! I feel the study of Crucial Conversations has helped me in many of my relationships, but still when the stakes are really high, I don’t engage. I am afraid that I may make things worse. I lack confidence in myself to have some difficult conversations, especially with a superior. Can you address overcoming fear in a future article?

By: Randy Stein

Randy Stein — Wed, 28 Jul 2010 14:56:01 +0000

Both parties to a crucial conversation must be motivated to “have the conversation”. With a long avoided crucial conversation, by the time you want to have the crucial conversation, your partner may not want to have it. Part of the ground rules must be to convince your partner that it is time to have the conversation.

Your partner may just not want to deal with you or the crucial conversation. You must be prepared to be frustrated because you can’t force them to deal with you now.

Have you ever discussed this related issue?

By: marilyn shapiro

marilyn shapiro — Wed, 28 Jul 2010 12:33:15 +0000

I am inspired by the courage this writer intends to demonstrate to change a situation that has been painful for a long time. It is columns like this one that teaches us all how to utilize the skills to make our lives what we want them to be.

Thanks for your work, and thanks for providing ‘real life’ possibilities.
Marilyn Shapiro

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