I am Single(I am 28) and my mom and dad are no more. My mom just passed away days before so I am looking online for some way to help me over come my pain and the “feeling of being lost”. I was very close to my mom. I stayed with her and she used to take care of me and cook for me and everything else.

I also called someone at home and he said he will come and never came. I just wanted company that’s all as I am Home Alone.

I will ask someone to write some advice for me if you have some.

I feel very sad for the people DL has lost over the years. My Heart Felt Condolences and may their Soul Rest In Peace.

1. the supporter let me talk about my loved one to a reasonable extent without me feeling rushed or cutting me off to interject.

2. the supporter would look into my eyes, and they would have facial expressions with compassion, and I would be their focus without distractions.
3. the supporter would hug me a few times.

Insensitive, non-caring “supporters” that grievers do not need:

1. they ask how you are doing while they continue to walk away.
2. the same for: “If you need anything…”

3. they non-chalantly talk about their losses in the past instead of listening to you with your very current pain.

4. they talk about their plans to go on vacation, a party, etc, while you could not be less interested as your mind is wandering about your loved one.

5. they tell you that they will call you or will contact you in another way, but of course that never happens.

6. they “sincerely” invite you out to lunch “some time,” but they never seem to find the time.

How very sad for that type of person! And how very telling of them that they do not possess common decency and respect, especially for the deceased and for family and friends who are deeply hurting.

1. One dear “friend” empahtically said she would be at my side up to and including the funeral. Two days after saying that, she told me that she was “too busy.” She didn’t even send a sympathy card.
Note: I never did anything to her, and when her husband was hospitalized, my husband and I really extended ourselves.

2. A VERY elderly neighbor keeps offering his “help”…but as it turns out, all he actually wants to do is talk continuously AT me for great length about his past, his this, his that….and keeps insisting on taking me “out,” because HE TELLS ME that I need to get out just like he did when his wife passed away. Also, I don’t get a chance to speak about my husband.
Note: he has plenty of family that he talks to and visits…and dates his “lady friends.” And as for going out with him, I know for sure he means a date! No, thank you! I prefer the peace and quiet of my own home.

3. I am sick and tired of people insincerely telling me: “If there is anything I can do, let me know.” When I dared to ask the very, very slightest thing, like signing the online newspaper obit Guest Book, they find excuses why they can’t be bothered…or give no thought to what they write because it doesn’t make any sense.’

Since I am completely all alone now, I have more than enough to deal with without having to tolerate other people’s stupidity, insensitivities, and nonsense!

My wise, consoling husband would say: “That’s the way some people are. Don’t let it bother you.”