Comments on: Antisocial Networks?

By: Three Tips for using Social Media | Collaborative Leadership

Three Tips for using Social Media | Collaborative Leadership — Thu, 16 May 2013 17:54:47 +0000

[…] week ago, or so, Terri sent me the following link to a blog she follows: (http://www.crucialskills.com/2013/05/antisocial-networks-2/) The blog seems to highlight various writers taking on communication, behavioral, and […]

By: Regina

Regina — Thu, 16 May 2013 13:12:21 +0000

In reply to Editor. Thank you!

By: Sue

Sue — Thu, 16 May 2013 09:20:12 +0000

What a fabulous response from Joseph – I am printing it out for my family. If you had a “like” thumb there I would have pressed it! 🙂

By: Deborah

Deborah — Thu, 09 May 2013 08:57:00 +0000

Super article! The analogy of communicating through a straw is excellent! This shoule be required reading for anyone who ever uses the internet, in any form, to express themselves.

By: Editor

Editor — Wed, 08 May 2013 21:46:52 +0000

In reply to Regina.

If you don’t have a Facebook account, you can also download our free e-book, “When Crucial Conversations Go Social” here: http://static.vitalsmartscdn.com/downloadredirects/fbebookredirect.html.

By: Regina

Regina — Wed, 08 May 2013 20:20:22 +0000

I’m sorry, that I cannot access the free e-book… I don’t have a facebook account…

By: Patricia Duckworth

Patricia Duckworth — Wed, 08 May 2013 16:13:38 +0000

this is one of the best ‘boundary’ guiding pieces I’ve read for “e-etiquette.” Thanks!

By: Bill in Washington

Bill in Washington — Wed, 08 May 2013 14:54:14 +0000

Joseph, I agree with you and this is great advice. I wish everyone would follow such guidelines for communicating! I try and try to get people I know to stop having crucial conversations over “texts” AND other media, to not even start a crucial conversation that way, but they typically DON’T or won’t listen… then they wonder why everything gets so messed up. A couple thoughts, one, on the “Trust your gut” advice, it may be best for the person who is “reacting” to whatevers happening on the texts, basically the situation is heating up, to take a time out, take a long break BEFORE jumping on the phone to call… typically if they call right away, they may already be in a mode of emotional reaction or defensiveness. The other thought is, I have typically found that people who are already prone to getting into these messes, don’t have the tools to get out of them by talking face to face. Even though you arm them with such great advice. I’m not giving up on people, I don’t think, but I feel like its a, “you can’t fix stupid” situation. In other words, I feel like there’s a very small percentage of people who can actually take your advice and have the composure to apply it to their personal and emotional situations.
Cheers

By: Renee Smith

Renee Smith — Wed, 08 May 2013 14:35:52 +0000

I have made a point not to comment on or post anything that might stir aggression in any of my “friends” – especially political views. It has saved me a lot of grief.

By: Linda Odum

Linda Odum — Wed, 08 May 2013 13:33:08 +0000

Joseph,
You hit the nail on the head! Nowhere are people more vulnerable than in the “straw view” of social media.
Linda