Comments on: Getting Over the Hurt

By: Maryann

Maryann — Sat, 23 Jan 2021 14:12:35 +0000

This is the most valuable article I’ve read in a long time.

By: Monica

Monica — Wed, 14 Sep 2011 16:29:20 +0000

This one was very helpful and powerful. Thank you for the lessons, the research, sharing what you discover, the newsletters, and the reminders that people are kind and there is a way to be a better soul.

By: Steven Estergreen

Steven Estergreen — Fri, 09 Sep 2011 22:07:11 +0000

Joseph,
Thanks for bringing up the f-word. So much of our happiness depends on learning to forgive, both the little things and the big ones, both others and ourselves.
Steven

By: Heather

Heather — Thu, 08 Sep 2011 16:38:31 +0000

In “Influencers” you mention the marriage research of Dr. Howard Markman and his collegue, Dr. John Gottman. I once heard Dr. Gottman say that about 65% of the conflicts in marriage never get resolved. The key is to figure out if you can live with the unresolved conflicts in that 65%. If you can – then it seems the most peaceful solution is to agree to disagree. I know that’s easier said than done, but it’s weirdly comforting to resign myself to the fact that there are some things we are never going to agree on.

By: Lynn Stephens

Lynn Stephens — Wed, 07 Sep 2011 21:27:17 +0000

As I’m sure others have seen, this is a true principle. A quick example: We have 3 foster children. One of them was taunting another by telling him that he wouldn’t last a month in his new job, a pretty hurtful statement to the new job holder. The taunter also got a job about the same time, but within a month was on final warning for performance issues. I talked to my spouse about this principle, that the weaknesses we dislike in others are the ones we most dislike in ourselves. Great article.

By: Joseph Grenny

Joseph Grenny — Wed, 07 Sep 2011 21:05:00 +0000

Thanks, Eliot, that makes a lot of sense to me. I think that is the essence of what I was trying to communicate as well - that we're all bigger than our weaknesses but smaller than perfection. @Eliot Jekowsky

By: Jody

Jody — Wed, 07 Sep 2011 19:34:19 +0000

Thank you Joseph. That was one of the most valuable messages I have yet read from Vital Smarts.

By: Susan

Susan — Wed, 07 Sep 2011 18:19:04 +0000

Thank you for sharing these excellent ideas. It certainly is an article worth re-reading time to time.

By: Carol

Carol — Wed, 07 Sep 2011 18:16:32 +0000

I’m putting this one in the “keeper” file. Thanks!

By: Karen

Karen — Wed, 07 Sep 2011 17:32:56 +0000

That was powerful! I think I’ve experienced that shift in some instances, without fully realizing how I got there. Your explanation will help me replicate it more intentionally. Thanks!