Comments on: Addressing a Poor Listener

By: Tom B

Tom B — Mon, 08 Apr 2024 09:06:48 +0000

Ummmmmmm
At risk, I’ll put another thought out there
Perhaps the friend is sending a subtle message. Perhaps the speaker is needy and the friend can’t fill that need.

By: Debbie

Debbie — Fri, 05 Apr 2024 07:21:15 +0000

Sadly a lot of people do not listen to understand. They only listen to respond.

By: BLÉ Philippe TAPE

BLÉ Philippe TAPE — Wed, 03 Apr 2024 20:07:40 +0000

Merci beaucoup pour ce partage. Il a été très utile pour moi. Surtout le point 1. Car je crois que c’est le noeud de tout problème. Merci encore.

By: Marvin

Marvin — Wed, 03 Apr 2024 16:04:36 +0000

Another option is to try framing your response as a question. The question compels the friend to answer. Then respond with another response framed as a question.

By: Liz

Liz — Wed, 03 Apr 2024 15:51:01 +0000

As someone with ADHD, I have been your friend. I don’t suggest armchair diagnosing her, but this possibility may help you reframe how you view her behavior. She may genuinely not want to do this at all and be really struggling to do better! Or she may be entirely unaware that she does this, and your revelation to her could be a great gift to her! Either way, you cannot know until you talk to her. I hope you get what you need to approach this conversation with the love you have for your friend and assume she loves you too!

By: Melissa

Melissa — Wed, 03 Apr 2024 14:33:53 +0000

Dear receiver of a poor listening friend,
There are many sides to a story and I feel that perhaps when you are speaking with this person you may have been “saying the same thing over and over” and perhaps they are genuinely bored with you constantly repeating yourself and your stories over and over. Friendships are another word for “relationship” and there are times when each friendship has a season of change – Did you ever ask your “friend” why they appear to be bored with what you have to say? They might surprise you and say “well, I don’t want to hurt your feelings but every time you ask my opinion you do the exact opposite anyway so why bother”! And lastly, a friend is someone that is there for you, listens to you, is honest with you and deeply, genuinely cares about you – if they are not then the season has ended and its time for a change and new friendships should be made and this one ended