Comments on: Stop Apologizing

By: J. Lynn Jones

J. Lynn Jones — Sat, 11 Mar 2023 18:06:04 +0000

This is really helpful. It’s easy to create a habit of apologizing when it would be much better to be in the habit of contrasting when we are misunderstood.

By: Marina Shelton

Marina Shelton — Thu, 09 Mar 2023 12:13:25 +0000

I am in a situation right now, where I went over “Crucial Conversation” book last night, all the highlights I had made, to face this upcoming Crucial Conversations meeting, ensuring I am appliying the steps and skills presented. This is one that I had not considered, but I will, now that I read this article. Thank you! This series of books have become my everyday resource and practice. Crucial Conversations and Crucial Accountability have helped me form a great team of bus drivers that understand my requests, changes and deadlines and appreciate the understanding support and listening to them when they need to unload a problem.
Thank you!

By: Arun Dravid

Arun Dravid — Thu, 09 Mar 2023 02:53:32 +0000

Hello Justin,
Being over & repeatedly apologetic not only starts manifesting an impression in others minds which necessarily may not be true but creates a lot of stress to the individual making him/her vulnerable, weak , insecure & above all losing confidence.
A nice eye opener from your side… thanks a ton

By: Liz Nishimura

Liz Nishimura — Wed, 08 Mar 2023 23:44:04 +0000

The question immediately triggers the thought of “Is Stepped On being gaslit?” In a dysfunctional relationship it is not uncommon for one person to be blamed for the short comings of the other person. Then to keep the relationship going, the blamed person apologizes over and over again. This was my experience in my first marriage. It was always my fault.

Now in my second marriage we use Crucial Conversations to get over the rough spots and have mutual respect and love for each other. Thanks Crucial Learning!

By: Kim

Kim — Wed, 08 Mar 2023 21:26:55 +0000

Thank you Justin! I apologize way too much 🙁

By: Ron

Ron — Wed, 08 Mar 2023 19:54:46 +0000

I’ve heard that a blameless apology is a potentially good way to acknowledge the other’s feelings of being hurt while not directly accepting responsibility for their situation in order to move forward with what you can help them with now. I.e. I’m sorry for your disappointment but I’m here and able to help you with doing this now if you would like.

By: Kim Boggess

Kim Boggess — Wed, 08 Mar 2023 19:04:40 +0000

Love this simple helpful track of steps with easy to understand examples. Now to put it into practice.

By: Kristi

Kristi — Wed, 08 Mar 2023 15:37:24 +0000

There is so much power in learning more about this aspect of communication, especially being a female in a male-dominated work environment. I have learned not to blanket apologize, because I may not be wrong or sorry. If I do apologize, I make sure I am clear about my error and go back to the conversation fundamentals.

By: Dave

Dave — Wed, 08 Mar 2023 14:51:34 +0000

How should one deal with people who over apologize?

By: Justin Hale

Justin Hale — Wed, 08 Mar 2023 14:12:45 +0000

In reply to Charles. Glad I could help!