Comments on: Dealing with a Narcissist in the Family https://cruciallearning.com/blog/dealing-with-a-narcissist-in-the-family/ VitalSmarts is now Crucial Learning Mon, 08 Apr 2024 12:14:46 +0000 hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=6.5.2 By: astrologer devanand https://cruciallearning.com/blog/dealing-with-a-narcissist-in-the-family/#comment-12030 Mon, 08 Apr 2024 12:14:46 +0000 https://cruciallearning.com/?p=22024#comment-12030 Thank you for imparting such precious insights on dealing with narcissism within the family. Your blog presents realistic recommendations and an appreciation for navigating complicated dynamics. It’s a proper, useful resource for all and sundry looking for coaching and help in dealing with difficult relationships. Keep up the terrific work.

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]]> By: Margaret McConnell https://cruciallearning.com/blog/dealing-with-a-narcissist-in-the-family/#comment-11258 Fri, 15 Sep 2023 20:44:53 +0000 https://cruciallearning.com/?p=22024#comment-11258 In reply to Nancy Lou Little.

Completely agree–I do think Crucial Learning concepts work with most people, but I do not think the tactics would work with someone who is isolating a person from their loved ones. The mother in this situation does not sound like she is being coercive. Once a person with narcissistic tendencies feels like a person has given consent, it can be very difficult for the victim to extract themself from the narcissist. I am concerned for this daughter and understand why the mother is concerned. It’s a very delicate situation.

]]> By: Nicole https://cruciallearning.com/blog/dealing-with-a-narcissist-in-the-family/#comment-11196 Wed, 23 Aug 2023 18:51:54 +0000 https://cruciallearning.com/?p=22024#comment-11196 In reply to Janice Pearl D’Souza.

I would be very careful with that mentality in situations of abuse, though. It can feel very victim blamey, and it needs to be made clear to victims of abuse that it is NEVER their fault and they didn’t do anything to deserve the abuse. Being manipulated isn’t something that someone accepts. That’s the whole point, abuse and manipulation happens TO someone, without their consent. I get the sentiment, but it’s a dangerous mindset for someone who is in, or just got free from, an abusive relationship.

]]> By: Nicole https://cruciallearning.com/blog/dealing-with-a-narcissist-in-the-family/#comment-11195 Wed, 23 Aug 2023 18:47:54 +0000 https://cruciallearning.com/?p=22024#comment-11195 I was your daughter. I was 5+ years deep into a relationship that started out great and healthy. Eventually it got worse and worse, starting with emotional and physical abuse, then financial abuse and reached the point where physical abuse was a common occurrence.
My mom often told me that my situation was unhealthy. She often told me I had support. I knew all of that. Did I care? Did I leave? No. In fact, it pushed me away further because I didn’t want to keep hearing it.
I thought I knew better. “He’s sorry.” “He wouldn’t do XYZ.” “He won’t do it again.” “He just needs help.” All lies I told myself. What it truly took for me to finally leave for good (we had broken up and gotten back together multiple times) was hitting my own personal boundary that was too far.
On average, it takes someone 7 tries to get out of an abusive relationship. Your daughter may react differently than myself since we are, of course, different people. My biggest advice would be to (1) never reach out to the boyfriend to address the issue and (2) confront the issue once with your daughter and gauge her reception to it. If she gets super defensive, stop. Just make sure she knows that you will always support her, and when she does finally hit that breaking point (God willing), never say “About time” or “I told you so”. Deep down, I can all but guarantee she already knows that the situation she is in is unhealthy.
Good luck, mama. It’s hard.

]]> By: Janice Pearl D'Souza https://cruciallearning.com/blog/dealing-with-a-narcissist-in-the-family/#comment-11172 Thu, 17 Aug 2023 22:57:23 +0000 https://cruciallearning.com/?p=22024#comment-11172 Wow! This one hit home for me on an frequently growing and sensitive reality. What was the hardest line for me was ‘identify how you’ve allowed it (manipulation) to happen and don’t let it happen again.’
Thanks for the reinforcing how the same CRUCIAL CONVERSATIONS tools work brilliantly here.

]]> By: Ryan Trimble https://cruciallearning.com/blog/dealing-with-a-narcissist-in-the-family/#comment-11171 Thu, 17 Aug 2023 14:58:15 +0000 https://cruciallearning.com/?p=22024#comment-11171 Lots of good perspective and information in the comments for our reader. I learned a lot, too! Thank you.

]]> By: Dr. Dennis O’Grady https://cruciallearning.com/blog/dealing-with-a-narcissist-in-the-family/#comment-11169 Thu, 17 Aug 2023 12:50:28 +0000 https://cruciallearning.com/?p=22024#comment-11169 Brief counseling for the parent from a neutral source can really help develop assertive options and reduce natural anxieties.

]]> By: Laura L https://cruciallearning.com/blog/dealing-with-a-narcissist-in-the-family/#comment-11167 Wed, 16 Aug 2023 22:56:50 +0000 https://cruciallearning.com/?p=22024#comment-11167 In reply to Gina C..

Gina, I love your perspective. Giving suggestions about how you can support sounds amazing. When I’ve gone through hard times and others have asked what they can do to help, I couldn’t see out of the mire I was sludging through enough to know what would help. But when someone offered me choices of things they could do, I was able to receive their help with much gratitude.

This approach definitely helps her to know she is loved and worth loving. These are great suggestions!

]]> By: Anonymous https://cruciallearning.com/blog/dealing-with-a-narcissist-in-the-family/#comment-11166 Wed, 16 Aug 2023 22:36:26 +0000 https://cruciallearning.com/?p=22024#comment-11166 In reply to David.

I just watched that same Shaneen Megji you tube short today myself. She is a wonderful resource on narcissism and navigating toxic relationships. I have been listening to her, Dr. Les Carter, Dr. Ramani, and Dr. Kerry Kerr McAvoy regularly, as I have a narcissistic father and have found myself in a few other narcissistic/toxic relationships, including my son’s pregnant girlfriend who is currently stonewalling us and using the baby as a manipulation tool. Finding experts in narcissism who can help educate us on their tactics, how to set proper boundaries, and care for ourselves as we interact with these toxic people is definitely a crucial skill!

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