Comments on: Crucial Moments at Callie’s Café

By: Ryan Trimble

Ryan Trimble — Wed, 22 Feb 2023 22:13:02 +0000

In reply to Robin. Thanks, Robin. I'm a lucky guy. :)

By: Ryan Trimble

Ryan Trimble — Wed, 22 Feb 2023 22:08:46 +0000

In reply to Anna-Lena. It continues to kick my butt too, Anna. Keep at it!

By: Scott Jackson

Scott Jackson — Wed, 22 Feb 2023 20:25:58 +0000

Thank you Ryan for the wonderful lesson!
Here are some thoughts stimulated by your lesson.
I understand the most up-to-date scientific model to explain human behavior is the biopsychosocial model. It requires relevant factors in biology, psychology and sociology to be understood in order to provide the most accurate explanation of behavior. These are three vast academic disciplines where research is continuously ongoing.
Human behavior is so complex that in order to simplify it, many of us only pick one of the three disciplines (we poorly understand) and then start making judgments about ourselves and others.
If one picks only biology, then one risks making racist or sexist judgments.
If one picks only psychology, then one risks making the fundamental attribution error.
If one picks only sociology, then one risks making judgments based on the “blank slate” concept. [from Steven Pinker]
So we need to study and do research in all three academic disciplines in order to make the best judgments, policies and laws for the sake of all individuals and civil society.
That’s a tall order and humanity still has a lot of work to do!
I was not aware of the Six Sources of Influence model. It appears extremely practical and I plan to start using it.
Thanks again for the wonderful lesson and story. I feel so grateful for Crucial Learning providing so many useful tools!

By: Brittney Maxfield

Brittney Maxfield — Wed, 22 Feb 2023 18:26:45 +0000

Bravo! You are a great dad. You are also a great example to me and others around you. Thank you Ryan!

By: Anna-Lena

Anna-Lena — Wed, 22 Feb 2023 18:14:28 +0000

I admire the way words so easily flows from some people around me and with that make it a safe space.This was an yes “epic” conversation in natural flow. I find myself “impaired” in expression and forget the right words and feel if not stupid however close to it.. I am reading the Crucial conversation over and over and think well it must one day stay in there and when faced with “situations” I also find myself in lack of finding the words..English is my second language however its not the main problem ..I think its deeper than that.I have never been afraid to express or share my feelings. I got a lot of help from the book Crucial Conversation what my go to place is when I am triggered. It was a hard lesson..I think about myself as a person who always make it safe….well my expression and not having problem sharing where I am mentally physically and spiritually with people. I now understand that can be very intimidating and feeling threatening to others..By my easy going could make it very unconformable for someone who is closed …I did not make it safe so yes a big lesson and I am determined to practice and be as good of a communicater as I can…To listen and feel in where it broke down and to find a common ground and ask questions. I appreciate my own openness however it for sure can be too much and my work is of course to whats behind that openness…being admired, liked so cool..etc etc… oh dear this book kick my butt and its a good kick!!

By: Bill Wettstein

Bill Wettstein — Wed, 22 Feb 2023 17:43:03 +0000

Nicely done! I can relate as father of 7 young adults.

By: Bill F

Bill F — Wed, 22 Feb 2023 17:32:19 +0000

Great lesson! 👏
Let’s hear it for the eavesdroppers among us. This would also be a great short video so we could see it in action and hope to replicate it 😀

By: Anne Smith

Anne Smith — Wed, 22 Feb 2023 17:02:52 +0000

Beautifully done Ryan! Lots of good fodder for consideration. I love the story sharing as an example for real life implementation!

By: Tabitha

Tabitha — Wed, 22 Feb 2023 16:53:49 +0000

I absolutely loved this.
My insight – which seem so simple now – is in how you broached the subject. Through an example.
Epic indeed!

By: Robin

Robin — Wed, 22 Feb 2023 16:06:25 +0000

Thank you for this article of great insight! Your daughter is a lucky girl!