Comments on: How to Confront Someone Who Has a History of Evading Responsibility https://cruciallearning.com/blog/how-to-confront-someone-who-has-a-history-of-evading-responsibility/ VitalSmarts is now Crucial Learning Wed, 21 Feb 2024 15:02:11 +0000 hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=6.5.2 By: Corinthia Emanuel https://cruciallearning.com/blog/how-to-confront-someone-who-has-a-history-of-evading-responsibility/#comment-11644 Wed, 07 Feb 2024 18:39:56 +0000 https://cruciallearning.com/?p=23869#comment-11644 Succinct, functional, and effective! Thank you.

]]> By: Brittney Maxfield https://cruciallearning.com/blog/how-to-confront-someone-who-has-a-history-of-evading-responsibility/#comment-11643 Wed, 07 Feb 2024 17:48:24 +0000 https://cruciallearning.com/?p=23869#comment-11643 In reply to tom benzoni.

Thank you Tom – really good insight.

]]> By: Brittney Maxfield https://cruciallearning.com/blog/how-to-confront-someone-who-has-a-history-of-evading-responsibility/#comment-11642 Wed, 07 Feb 2024 17:47:09 +0000 https://cruciallearning.com/?p=23869#comment-11642 In reply to Wendy Clarahan.

Thank you Wendy! Your kind words mean a lot. Thank you for reading.

]]> By: tom benzoni https://cruciallearning.com/blog/how-to-confront-someone-who-has-a-history-of-evading-responsibility/#comment-11641 Wed, 07 Feb 2024 16:16:19 +0000 https://cruciallearning.com/?p=23869#comment-11641 This is an important idea; the premise needs to be very clear, however. Just Culture has a good model here. (I refer to the original Just Culture, not the one I see in the punitive section of HR manuals, leaving out the responsibility up the chain.)
First: Are the rules clear ad agreed to? In a communal environment, it can become confusing in a hurry. “We are communal in Area A but not in Area B.” We do not share food, no exceptions, no grace. We do share utilities, all grace. (4 people in communal space: one uses only one’s own food but uses 50% of the hot water…)
Next: Are the rules followed? I don’t label the carton of milk that I want just for me, clearly, with my name, using is up before it stinks up the refrigerator and I don’t crowd out others.
Last: Now ask the “bad intent” question: “I bought that milk yesterday, I labeled it, it was alone on the shelf. It’s empty now, back on the shelf. Any idea what happened?”
I find the first 2 steps are frequently neglected as we seek to canonize ourselves. This is lazy thinking.

]]> By: Wendy Clarahan https://cruciallearning.com/blog/how-to-confront-someone-who-has-a-history-of-evading-responsibility/#comment-11640 Wed, 07 Feb 2024 16:05:26 +0000 https://cruciallearning.com/?p=23869#comment-11640 This response is so brilliant Brittney. It was a pleasure to read as the sequence just flowed & the writing was pithy but informative the way my brain needed to understand. I know I can apply what I have learned here to situations in my personal & professional life. The way you have layed it out is so rational & reasonable in & of itself so the emotions were taken out of the picture, I could focus & I could just let my prefrontal cortex go to work unimpeded lol👍

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