Comments on: How to Start Over with a Coworker

By: Sal

Sal — Fri, 16 Jun 2023 13:28:16 +0000

How would this article’s advice change if the relationship in question was that of manager – assistant manager?

By: Rosy

Rosy — Wed, 12 Apr 2023 01:02:51 +0000

While constantly looking for ways to become better, to grow.. . I found your wisdom!
You challenged me and you already helped me with these techniques, I appreciate your approach!

By: pamelaejohnsonumich@hotmail.com

pamelaejohnsonumich@hotmail.com — Wed, 26 Oct 2022 20:31:54 +0000

This is very good wisdom. It’s true, one cannot repair a broken relationship with a co-worker. However, I do believe in the spirit of Karma. What you give out comes back to you. And, It can be negative or positive. Often, one doesn’t need to be around to see the outcome. In my situation, the manager basically said, “Get rid of her.” And, the manger did. Did it hurt? Yes, it did. Yet, I learned from it. When one has wisdom, the hurt is released and one is positioned to soar again. It’s important to not look back, remain focused, find support through friends, and move forward.

By: C S

C S — Thu, 06 Oct 2022 18:03:29 +0000

Very good wisdom, I have come to the same conclusion after dealing with such a person for 10 years. I never did get thru to this person and they continue to undermine me to our manager, but I have become confident in who I am and am not bothered by this person’s views nor do I retaliate or hold a grudge. I deal and communicate with this person in a professional manner when it is needed for the business. My only problem is this person has become the manager’s favorite and there is now a good chance of them becoming my manager. What can I do in this situation besides contemplate leaving to find another job? Is there any hope I can make this work or is it just best to leave on my terms?

By: Tamara Coombs

Tamara Coombs — Mon, 03 Oct 2022 21:17:46 +0000

I read these articles regularly and find them helpful, but this really struck home – “intrapersonal calisthenics” and “OTHER flawed people” – so true, I have much work to do, on me.

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By: Joseph Grenny

Joseph Grenny — Thu, 29 Sep 2022 12:47:55 +0000

In reply to Bryhony Mate. Beautiful. A master class in humility.

By: John Guetterman

John Guetterman — Thu, 29 Sep 2022 02:42:05 +0000

Joseph, your advice through the years in articles like this, presentations, and books have had a life-changing and life-enriching impact on my life. Thank you for your courage and effort. This article is another prime example of the profound, loving, and challenging perspective you offer. Your faith-informed wisdom shines through. Keep up the great work!

By: David Benjamin

David Benjamin — Thu, 29 Sep 2022 01:02:07 +0000

This article reminded me of Proverbs 19:18
“A brother offended is harder to be won than a strong city: and their contentions are like the bars of a castle.”

The solution the article mentions is to protect yourself from expectations of any reciprocal over any Oliver branch reconciliation you make to mend the relationship.

Another phrase that comes to mind is “What they think of me is none of my business”

One question I’ve pondered is this:
Does lowering or removing expectations also lower or remove motivation?

By: Bryhony Mate

Bryhony Mate — Wed, 28 Sep 2022 23:29:32 +0000

I have been in this situation where I said some horrible things about a colleague which had tarnished my reputation at work.
All I did was take accountability for my actions, allowed time for the individual who I had hurt time to process what I had said and done.

I left it a month or so.

I then wanted to see them in person, though could only do by phone due to logistics at work.
I asked her if it was okay to talk about this matter.

I was genuine in this conversation.
I stated the facts, what I said and done. I acknowledged what I did was completely unforgivable and should have never said this. I said that I am completely ashamed of what I had done as it was out of character of myself and I became a person I did not want to be, though this behaviour is never excusable.

I gave a heartwarming apology and acknowledged that I knew things will never be the same, though would love the opportunity to work on our professional and friendship outside of work if she was willing to give me a chance to gain her trust and respect.

I asked her if she wanted to chat about this further, I am willing to for closure for herself in person.

She thanked me for the apology and said that this would be a good idea and it will take a while to gain my trust and respect from her.

I thanked her for the chance and explained my gratitude for this.

This conversation was all about her.

I will always will feel horrible for what I said and done, though that’s on me and never burden.

It has taken me years to gain some/little trust from her and others around.
This will be an ongoing process.

I am always conscious of what I do and say.

I even have recovery conversations as a peer with other Staff who have done the same.
This has made the lady I hurt.