Comments on: How to Work with a Chronic Liar

By: zidane

zidane — Mon, 03 Jul 2023 07:38:35 +0000

thank you for the information

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Thu, 14 Jul 2022 15:49:05 +0000

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By: Andrew Knight

Andrew Knight — Thu, 07 Jul 2022 13:40:15 +0000

Except for being in the mob or living in a dictatorship, there are no situations where you cannot walk away. Walking away might cause loss of well paying job or divorce but look at the other possibilities: If your boss blamed you for their actions that caused horrendous company losses or serious injuries, or if you lying wife accused you of domestic violence, you could wind up in jail or bankrupt

By: pl

pl — Mon, 04 Jul 2022 21:19:03 +0000

What about when there definitely is no walking away, e.g. Vladimir Putin, China about environmental issues? We are all stuck on the planet together, the only ones leaving are Elon Musk and Jeff Bezos…

By: JC Swierczek

JC Swierczek — Fri, 01 Jul 2022 01:59:11 +0000

This article resonated with me. You provide respectful but real guidelines to deal with lying in any relationship – business or personal. The insight you provided should an individual decide to remain in this flawed relationship was honest. The compassion for both parties was real. Tbanks.

By: Matt Clabaugh

Matt Clabaugh — Thu, 30 Jun 2022 15:37:19 +0000

Assuming I have made the choice not to walk away, and have gone through the content, patten, and he knows I don’t trust what he says (relationship), but the lies continue, how do I manage those lies’ impact on others in the group? What difference does it make if I have some belief that they are perhaps not lies, but memory lapses or incorrect recollection of events?

By: TG

TG — Thu, 30 Jun 2022 15:25:03 +0000

Thank you Joseph! I had this problem with a close family relationship and had to go through all 3 phases of crucial conversations. Sadly this ultimately resulted in me leaving the relationship. One of the hardest decisions I’ve ever had to make in my life and in many ways caused other types of pain and grieving. It was the right decision to protect myself and my family but a difficult decision, none the less.Articles like this help me understand better about myself and my decision.

I know we are all imperfect people and I pray my family member can ultimately reach out with a sincere effort to restore trust – in the meantime I have the tools necessary to be sure I can work toward healthy relationships and a healthy mental / emotional life.

By: David R

David R — Thu, 30 Jun 2022 13:15:05 +0000

Once worked with a director who was well known for his lying ways. When called out, “Oh no – it’s hyperbole…” when it was very clearly not just exaggeration for effect. It got to the point that other people in the institution would come to me for information and when I suggested that they speak with the director, they said, “no, I want a real answer.” We actually had a cartoon posted of an ancient stringed instrument, labelled “Compulsive lyre” and the instrument saying, “no, really, I’m a banjo!” I had to leave to escape because of the toxic relationship of our team in the institution. We never knew what someone had been told and they never knew what the full story was. Leaving turned out to be a great choice.

By: Renee Hamilton

Renee Hamilton — Wed, 29 Jun 2022 18:53:11 +0000

There are times when you do not have the option to walk away, such as when it’s a minor child. When my stepdaughter was 12 years old, I overheard her telling lies to a new friend. I then noticed her telling lies to her father and me and to other family and friends. I confronted her about them, and she would deny them, say I misunderstood, or that they were just meaningless fibs and no one was harmed. This was before I heard about crucial conversations. Her mother wouldn’t agree to send her to counseling, so I made up my mind to not believe anything she said but to continue love her for the person I knew she was inside. I felt sad about not being able to help her, but I knew it was beyond my control. I chose to look at it as a mental disability and just loved her for who she was.

By: Dr. Dennis O'Grady

Dr. Dennis O'Grady — Wed, 29 Jun 2022 16:55:27 +0000

Grateful for Joseph addressing this this common challenge in communication. In my work with couples and companies, honesty solves problems. Not so easy to practice but true! I appreciate the clarity of Joseph’s rational CPR approach to emotional issues of mistrust in relationships. Thank you!