Comments on: How to Tell Someone They Talk Too Much

By: How do you politely ask someone to stop talking so much? - Respect-And-Honor

How do you politely ask someone to stop talking so much? - Respect-And-Honor — Tue, 27 Sep 2022 23:27:55 +0000

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By: Concetta Longo

Concetta Longo — Fri, 02 Sep 2022 15:27:10 +0000

No matter what the situation is, my husband is a 24/7, 365 days a year YAPPER!!!!
I can no longer put up with his nonsense ANYMORE!!!
After 21 years, I’M LEAVING HIM!!!!

By: Marian

Marian — Thu, 25 Nov 2021 04:08:50 +0000

What do you do when it’s your adult child…ugh

By: Ann Miller

Ann Miller — Tue, 21 Sep 2021 01:48:17 +0000

I have several issues regarding talking with my husband. First, he talks and does not necessarily read his audience. So people tune out and stop listening. He also seems very self centered and will continue talking even if you tell him politely that he has already told you this, or this is not the time to discuss this point. He is very repetitive and will take awhile to explain something which would only take minute or 2, or repeat it several times in a week. He also constantly complains about issues and talks excessively about them. As we age we have aches and pains, which he talks about constantly. How do I address these issues politely. Note we have been married for 47 years and recently retired, so several of these issues did not surface, since we both worked long hours and did not have much time to spend talking. Thanks

By: Greg Link

Greg Link — Wed, 18 Nov 2020 02:08:38 +0000

Joseph quite the Yoda you’ve become. Very well said

By: Sadie

Sadie — Fri, 13 Nov 2020 14:51:18 +0000

I’m certainly no communications specialist but really like your response!
I hope there will be a reply from this person on the issue’s evolution.

By: Tara Wear

Tara Wear — Wed, 11 Nov 2020 20:42:59 +0000

SO beautifully put, Joseph. Thank you!

By: Nancy Kuehn

Nancy Kuehn — Wed, 11 Nov 2020 19:08:09 +0000

I can relate, thinking I am the one talking too much sometimes. I live alone and am rarely on the phone. I guess when I have the opportunity I may feel a need to catch up with my daily allotted words (women using more than men). When I feel I am not being received very readily or may be talking over others I hear a voice in my head saying, “sit down and shut up.” That tends to keep me in check.

By: Ronda Colavito

Ronda Colavito — Wed, 11 Nov 2020 18:12:35 +0000

Joseph, your last two points are so beautiful and true. “Relationships are the soul-stretching calisthenics of life!” Every time I teach Crucial Conversations in my organization I am reminded of this in my own life. Thank you for these words, they are really resonating with me today.

By: Kerry Stiff

Kerry Stiff — Wed, 11 Nov 2020 15:52:09 +0000

Re: Joseph Grenny’s recent article “How to tell someone they talk too much”

This article could have been about me. It took me 45 years to understand why I talk too much. I have Asperger’s syndrome.

Autism is primarily a communication thing. Many autistic people are non-communicative or at least non-verbal.

Asperger’s is a subset of Autism. We usually do communicate- just ineffectively.

Aspies don’t pick up on the clues that neuro-typicals send back and forth when communicating.

I often find that even after repeating and rephrasing the other person still doesn’t understand. This is a real problem during technical conversations if I can’t resort to drawings and mathematics.

I don’t have a solution except to recognize the trait in myself and try to be tolerant of people who are intolerant of me.

Intolerance is the disease. What we are intolerant of is only the symptom.