Comments on: When Feedback Feels Abusive

By: Andy Blanchard

Andy Blanchard — Mon, 26 Jun 2023 18:37:12 +0000

Very informative article, I consider myself as someone who can receive criticism easily, accountability is something I strive for, but I’d have a hard time delivering it.

By: Stephen Day

Stephen Day — Wed, 18 Jan 2023 16:22:42 +0000

Thanks for sharing Brittney, that was very insightful and I loved how you spoke about self worth and owning our own physiological safety. This is a good reminder with ways to receive feedback in a more meaningful way. Thanks again

By: Adrienne Rumi White

Adrienne Rumi White — Sat, 14 Jan 2023 01:40:18 +0000

Brittany, I appreciate your perspective. I have found that a few colleagues who are also certified Crucial Learning Trainers are “yeah but…” responders, poking holes in feedback and looking for a way to refute feedback offered. Before giving feedback (and after getting permission to do so), I work extra hard to “Master My Stories” and Start with the Heart.” Still… the “yeah buts…” just keep coming. Your sentence at the end (some of the responsibility lies with the receiver) is a new way of looking at this whole feedback loop. Thank you!

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By: Kathryn Nulk

Kathryn Nulk — Thu, 12 Jan 2023 20:03:40 +0000

In reply to Chris. What if the feedback was offered in the form of a question? Ex. How do you think it would have worked if it was done X way or if Y happened? Sometimes I make a presumption that the person did something when I ask, knowing that they did not (or vice versa). This gives them an opportunity to address why they did/did not do something, or at least think about it.

By: Trisha McComas

Trisha McComas — Thu, 12 Jan 2023 17:00:37 +0000

What a great article! This one is a keeper for me!

By: RAFAEL MARIN

RAFAEL MARIN — Wed, 11 Jan 2023 15:47:02 +0000

Thanks for this very insightful and clear explanation of how to be more prepared to receive feedback. I loved the safe and self-worth elements. We’re ultimately responsible for them.

By: MOLLIE MELBOURNE

MOLLIE MELBOURNE — Wed, 11 Jan 2023 15:07:59 +0000

I appreciate the words of wisdom for receiving harsh feedback and will share with my team. What I would also like to hear about is how to transform the employee providing harsh feedback. There is a way to do this so that it isn’t abrasive – the recipient may still react strongly but hopefully they will be able to process and improve/change their behavior as a result. I often say to my staff that it isn’t what is being said, but how it’s said that creates the problem. And that problem often lands in HR with a complaint from the recipient that then counteracts any kernel of truth in the original discussion.

By: Shaena Dearman

Shaena Dearman — Wed, 11 Jan 2023 14:27:44 +0000

makes so much sense. Realizing you don’t have to engage right away is a key message for me!

By: Chris

Chris — Wed, 11 Jan 2023 14:09:46 +0000

I like and agree with the thought of encouraging others to be open to feedback as described in the article, but I am not sure how best to do that with those that report to me and already do not receive feedback well.