Way to go Peggy Lou

Your story is what I am also living. My husband and I both hold the same views but his have become so extreme it is difficult to hold political conversations. It has come to the point of me diverting conversations for I know it will get heated and he will disregard my responses. Our marriage is definitely stressed since politics plays a bigger role these past several years. I hope we survive this.

I am living in the same world as you. My husband and I do tend to believe in the same politics. But the talk of politics and the negativity is driving me crazy. He is losing himself in a world of negativity. Everything he watches on TV or phone has to do with politics or how terrible people are now a days. Believe me I see it, I believe it but he’s consumed with it. I go to my bedroom and let him have the living room. He will even listen to music that talks politics. I seriously feel for you. And don’t go where he can talk politics to anyone else. That’s a real bad one. Even if they both agree on the subject he gets overheated. We also have been married for 28 yrs. Near enough to 30 and I hope we’ll be able to make it to 30. Him and I have been together for 35 yrs and married 28 of those yrs. I just wanted to tell you that your not alone, good luck and god bless.

Great response. My wife has always been iffy and left leaning and it has never been a problem until Trump. Now she is as crazy left as can be, and everything revolves around how Republicans ruin the country and so on. I was raised right and have changed my beliefs on a few things, but gun rights I will never fold on. I was raised in Uvalde Tx. There is the role reverse of this article and I am genuinely concerned of her mental well being. She post constantly on Instagram, just dunking on everything Republicans do. I’ve confronted her a few times but yesterday I let her have it in the comments, only because she supported gun control. I lost my cool as she did and I went to work. The whole time an Ar15 and ak47 within 10 feet of where she sleeps, now is the problem. I’ve been shoot at a few times so protection is why. She never hesitant to bring up the fact we where on food stamps and abused hard drugs at the same time, not realizing the point. I swear. Apologies for being all over the place. I just want my friend back, my best friend.

I am in a similar situation and our marriage has been tested more than ever. I has taken a lot of patience from both of us and an ability to be able to “switch the station / conversation” in our dialogue when the temperature starts to escalate. The news just stays off when either one of us is in the room. If I get triggered when my wife’s conservative friends come over … I leave the room. This was my FB post yesterday and I got many responses:

WE ARE IN A POLITICAL AND HUMANITARIAN CRISIS.
I believe we need to stop trying to defend our political positions by denigrating other perspectives. Many times the phrases we use are defined different depending on who is using them. We need to read and listen to different papers and new stations then what we typically do. News reported by social media, podcasts, news stations and articles either don’t always report all the facts correctly or are biased by their position, or financial benefit. We need to prioritize our issues … take care of our earth … our home, and protect the safety of our people. We have to be brave enough to break away from our party and find a new language. IF WE DON’T START TRYING TO COLLABORATE AND COMPROMISE WE WILL JUST CONTINUE TO DISCONNECT AND RAGE AGAINST EACH OTHER. Our politicians have to meet each other across the aisle as much as we need to communicate with our neighbors across our fences.